Find a Husband After 35 Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School

by Rachel Greenwald

Book Overview

A Harvard MBA shares her revolutionary program for using marketing tactics to find a husband after age 35. This is "Marriage 911"! For many single women over the age of 35, the rules for finding the... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 034546625X
• ISBN13: 9780345466259
• Release Date: September 2003
• Publisher: Ballantine Books
• Length: 322 Pages
• Weight: 1.02 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.1" x 5.9" x 8.6"

Customer Reviews

Worked for me

I know it's a wacked out book, but I read the darn thing in one sitting and when I was done I thought, "it's going to happen, I'm going to meet someone, the nightmare of my past relationships is going to be over and I'm going to get married someday." I did the plan, met a guy within 3 months and we live together as a family with my son, we're engaged, we plan on having a child together after we wed in the spring. I think the thing that's important is this: I wasted my time on bad men and relationships that were never going to work. This book got me to establish a 0 tolerance policy against losers. It also got me in the mindset for Internet dates of, this is not the first date of our relationship, I'm just meeting a person. We're just meeting. Thank him for dinner and stand up and go home. I mean, I can say a lot, of course it's a flawed book, and some of it is such overkill, it's laughable, but it did work for me. So good luck to all the single people out there. To find the right person does require sacrifice, and in essence, that's what this book is about. But from one who is in the happiest time of my life, I have to say that being is love is the greatest thing ever. It was worth all the pain, and all the waiting. "It's not true that there is one path that's right for everyone. Find your own truth." - Ram Das Anonymous

Not Your Typical "Over 35" Book

At first glance, this book seems like yet another "find a husband after 35" book. But instead of just targeting women because they are (ahem) older, it actually gives women a plan. A business plan, that is. Written by a successful businesswoman, this book actually lays out a marketing plan to catch a husband. As a marketing professional turned professional matchmaker, I loved the author's many analogies to marketing. The reason this book IS different is that it is written for women who understand business. It discusses the "strategy" of finding a husband versus the "chance encounter" approach. Any professional woman who likes the structure of a marketing plan will love this book. Plus, if marketing isn't your forte, it will also give you a crash course in basic marketing ... and that can't help but help your career, as well as your love life.This book focuses on a 15-step program to catch a hubby. Yes, that's a full 5 steps further than any Cosmo girl has ever gone, but the 15 steps aren't as overwhelming as they first might seem. Each step is based on sound marketing principles that we "over 35" women use every day. Things like making "the program" your top priority to developing an exit strategy (which means the man you're dating has to be marriage material or he goes in the dumpster lickety-split).Bottom Line-if you're a smart and savvy woman who wants a plan for her love life, this book is a great addition to your romantic education.

For the very daring and fearless single woman

I give this book five stars because I think it was well written and easy to read. I think it covers a topical issue and will be a bestseller. The writer comes across as very straight forward and sincere. She tells you up front that if you are going to follow her steps and be successful you need to put all your time, energy and money into finding a husband. She does not outline a step without giving practical tips on how to take action. There is one section with tips covering from the hair to the toenail. The questions and answers at the end were very good. She knows that the average woman is going to think these steps have elements of desperation. Which woman wants to come across as desperate? The writer spends time dealing with this issue and assuring the readers that they will not come across to friends, family, and associates as desperate. I liked the concept of developing your own personal brand. I disliked the idea of writing everyone in your address book and Rolodex and asking them to help you in the quest for a husband. I disliked the concept of an Exit Interview conducted by one of your friends. I don't think many women will follow the steps verbatim. You have to be bold and fearless to adopt these 15 steps as a way of life.

Being at the right place at the right time

This book is excellent because if you follow the plan, you will eventually find yourself in the right pool of people and face to face with someone who is good for you. However, if you do not make the most of it and sabotage the opportunity (which most people do) you will find yourself back at square one with a heartache. I recommend this book but in addition, I recommend Optimal Thinking: How to Be Your Best Self to show you how to eliminate self-sabotage, be your best regardless of any circumstance and make the most of any situation.

A Romance Coach Reviews "Find A Husband After 35"

I'm a CyberRomance Coach (www.KathrynBLord.com), and wrote this review of Rachel Greenwood's book for my enewsletter of 10/1/2003:A couple of weeks ago, I heard from a reader about this new book by Rachel Greenwald "Find a Husband after 35." Despite the trite (but definitely clear) title, Greenwald has some new things to say to single people, no matter what their age or gender.I read the book in practically one sitting -- not because it was short or an easy read (neither), but because Greenwald's angle was so interesting. The author has an M. B. A. from Harvard, and uses a strict business and marketing approach to finding a mate. She is "no-nonsense" -- doesn't care about why one is still single, puts up with no excuses for getting real and getting moving. Her Program (and she calls it that - The Program) is all about action.Greenwald's first of fifteen steps "to find a husband in 12 to 18 months" is making finding a mate your #1 priority. And Greenwald MEANS #1. She writes that if a woman is not married, wants to be, and is over 35, it's an emergency and needs to be treated as such. She writes on about the importance of setting a budget (she recommends 10 to 20 percent of your net income), paying close attention to packaging -- "creating you best look," "branding" -- not the painful hot iron to skin type, advertising, online marketing (Internet dating), on and on. Most made terrific sense. But my teeth really got set on edge with the "Telemarketing" chapter. Ooo-eee! There's got to be legislation coming to stop THAT one. This book does the very best in the chapter on "Market Expansion." Greenwald does a great job in helping the reader question going for a particular "type" when looking for a mate. She encourages vastly expanding the criteria one is willing to consider, telling yourself and others merely that you are looking for "someone wonderful," and keeping in mind that the package may end up looking far different from what you had fantasized. Women and men of all ages could benefit from reading just pages 68 - 80.The clearest message from Greenwald's book is the need for focus and action. I frankly have no doubt if you diligently followed her marketing steps (and she even has a way of proceeding if The Program does not seem to be "working"), you WOULD be partnered within 18 months. What's impossible to imagine is that you would NOT be. But "The Program" is not for the faint-hearted or the ambivalent. It's hard work, driven, and success-oriented. Reading this book may help you assess how really committed you are to find a mate. Greenwald's three "Priority Questions" are:1. Is finding a husband the most important goal in your life right now?2. Except for something illegal or immoral, would you do anything to find a husband?3. Are you committed to devoting the required time, energy, and money to find your husband?So, what do you think? Is your mate search REALLY a priority for you? If not, maybe that's part of the probl