Dr. Kate's Love Secrets: Solving the Mysteries of The Love Cycle

By Kate Wachs

Dr. Kate uses her years of experience as a clinical psychologist and advice maven, along with quizzes, QandAs, and letters from her top on-line advice column, to illustrate what she calls "the love cycle."

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1879706873
• ISBN13: 9781879706873
• Release Date: April 2000
• Publisher: Paper Chase Pr
• Length: 260 Pages
• Weight: 1.20 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.5" x 1.3" x 6.8"

Customer Reviews

Great for surviving divorce and starting over

As a divorced woman, I have been around awhile and have my own observations about life. So I was pleasantly surprised when I read this book. It truly is a book for anyone who has ever been in a relationship or who ever wants to be. Reading Dr. Kate's communication, marriage and divorce chapters brought back memories of life with my ex, and I was able to better understand what happened between us and why. I loved the communication and compatibility quizzes, and her techniques for how to grieve more efficiently. There's even a chapter on Happiness and Relationships and another on Starting Over. I wish I had read this book when I was first divorced -- I could have saved myself a lot of grief! If anyone wants to find and keep a good relationship, or if you're trying to survive a breakup or divorce, this is the book for you!S. Domino, Oakbrook, IL

This book has to be the best of its kind.

This book has to be the best of its kind. I liked it because it focuses on being proactive, taking charge of how we understand and develop love relationships. In fact, I think it probably gives hope in what might seem a hopeless quest to find a committed relationship. I think a lot of people do a lot of waiting around in the process of looking for love - waiting for something to happen, somebody to ask them out or to give a signal. Then they get in a situation, find it isn't working and really don't know why, what to do or how to fix it. They sometimes go on blaming themselves for what went wrong. This book gets us away from all of that and takes a totally different view. Instead, this book puts us in charge. This author tells us what we must do to get and keep the relationship we want. And if we don't like where we are in a relationship - she gives clear advice how we can change the situation. Dr. Kate takes us beyond the notions of "love at first sight," "soulmates" and "infatuation" to an understanding of how the dating process works, and how to develop and keep a happy long-term relationship. This book doesn't end with the close of the back cover. The author gives a web site address for follow-ups. If nothing else, the chapter on communication alone is worth the time, effort and price of the book.

REALISTIC ADVICE FROM A REAL EXPERT!

This book is very informative and useful. I have certainly been in and out of relationships, and I enjoyed Dr. Kate's concept of The Love Cycle -- a series of relationship stages we go in and out of over our lifetime. Thinking about my relationships in that way was very helpful. This book is really a primer -- outlining the basics for how to enjoy every relationship stage -- from finding someone, to making the relationship work, to solving the problems, and if necessary, to starting over again. Dr. Kate's insights are realistic and refreshing. She is a psychologist-matchmaker with a fascinating background, and she certainly has a wealth of knowledge to pass on to us. Yet her cheerful, supportive and straightforward style makes the book easy to digest, and her practical tips are easy to read and remember. It's obvious that Dr. Kate knows what she's talking about, and I enjoyed learning from her. In my opinion, this book is great for everyone. A+++

GREAT BOOK! 10 STARS!

I thought this book was great. I'm single and in the Looking For Love Stage, so I enjoyed the chapters on flirting, dating, compatibility, communication and sex the best. But since I hope someday to enter the Marriage Stage, I intend to reread the chapters on commitment, marriage, communication and working through the problems when I get there. I'm going to keep this book handy for easy reference, so I can make the most of my relationships.I also enjoyed Dr. Kate's friendly, down-to-earth style. I liked the little stories that illustrated her points, and the questionnaires were really fun. I also felt inspired by her attitude that if you don't like the stage you're in, you can change it. The chapter on how to stay happy no matter what relationship stage you're in was also terrific. I know how bad it feels when I go through a break up, and I'm glad I now have this book to guide me through that process with the least amount of pain. Way to go, Dr. Kate! C. Canning, Chicago

I LOVED THIS BOOK!

This was a really good book. It's honest, forthright, and obviously written by a person that is a relationship expert. No theories, no airs, Dr. Kate calls it like it is. She teaches how to seek, find and make love grow -- with a positive, yet realistic attitude. I especially liked the chapter on the differences between how men and women view sex. How many of us women have paced the floors wondering why that man we just slept with on the first date isn't calling back again? Dr. Kate makes it all make sense. I loved her discussion of the soulmate myth, things to consider before moving in with someone, and what to do when your boyfriend won't commit. Even the appendices are packed with useful information. I came away from this book feeling more secure about my love life and really hopeful. I know this is one book I will read over again.Simone, from Hinsdale, IL