Do I deserve to be Loved?

By Rosel Joy Bona

Do I deserve to be Loved?There is a question many of us have carried for years without ever daring to say it aloud. It hides beneath our anxiety, our burnout, our restlessness, and our endless need to be useful. It whispers in the quiet, unwitnessed part of the heart: If people really knew everything about me, would they still stay? Do I deserve to be loved?In this tender and deeply honest book, Pastor Rosel Joy Bona sits with you in that question rather than rushing past it. Drawing on more than two decades of walking alongside people through their hardest seasons - weeping with them, rejoicing with them, and watching grace do its quiet, patient work - he names a wound that is far more common than most of us realise: the load-bearing suspicion that we are fundamentally unworthy of the love we receive. It is a wound that rarely wears its own name. Instead it shows up as perfectionism, as people-pleasing, as an inability to rest, as a compulsive need to earn our place in the world.This is not a self-esteem book. It will not tell you that you are enough because you are special, or that you can affirm your way to peace. Those sentiments are kindly meant, but they still leave your worth resting on some quality within you that could one day be lost or fail. Instead, this book offers something older, steadier, and more durable - an honest answer drawn from within the Christian tradition and anchored in Scripture: that your worth was settled and secured long before you ever did a single thing to earn it, and cannot be un-earned by anything you have done.With a warm, pastoral voice and unflinching compassion, Pastor Bona gently guides the reader from the place where the question is born to the place where it finally grows quiet. He explores how shame differs from guilt, where the wound tends to come from, why we endlessly measure ourselves against everyone else, and the coping strategies - pursuit, protection, pleasing, and numbing - that we build to survive. He points to the astonishing truth that we were sought by God before we ever thought to search for Him, and, chapter by chapter, he retires the word "deserve" altogether, replacing the exhausting logic of contract with the unshakeable security of covenant love.Thoughtful yet accessible, theologically grounded yet never heavy, each chapter closes with questions for honest reflection, and the whole book can be read slowly, at whatever pace your season allows - there is no penalty here for reading it slowly. Whether you are a lifelong believer who has never doubted God's existence but has quietly doubted whether His love applies to you, someone exploring faith from the edges, a caregiver pouring out for others, or simply someone weary of living as though you were on probation, these pages were written with you in mind.You were not meant to earn the love you were made for. You were meant to come home to it - loved, wanted, chosen, and free.Do I Deserve to be Loved? is a gentle, grace-filled invitation to lay down the weary work of trying to be worthy, to quiet the voice that has argued you out of your own belovedness, and to rest at last in a love you could never earn and were never meant to.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 064593996X
• ISBN13: 9780645939965
• Release Date: January 1
• Publisher: Life Choice Press
• Length: 242 Pages
• Weight: 1.09 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 6.0" x 9.0"