Cops Don't Cry: a book of help and hope for police families

By Vali Stone

Book Overview

Policing is a consuming profession with incredibly high elements of stress. Research suggests that police divorce rates are more than double the national average of ordinary marriages. The spouse's... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0921165625
• ISBN13: 9780921165620
• Release Date: June 1999
• Publisher: Creative Bound
• Length: 234 Pages
• Weight: 0.88 lbs.

Customer Reviews

Great, informative reading

I held off reading "Cops Don't Cry," fearing a gushy book of emotions by a policeman's wife. I was delighted to find a most sobering look at the challenges faced by a spouse in such a relationship. On the one hand, the author spares no punches in sharing the difficulties and challenges, which will surprise those who are new and comfort those who've been in relationships for a time. On the other hand, she offers sound advice on making it all work, taking care of yourself and, above all, keeping a sense of humor. It's tough, she notes, especially when such things as trauma and PTSD enter the picture--but again, she walks the reader through the steps of making it all worthwhile. Great, informative reading. Andrew O'Hara, Badge of Life

Very Insightful

This book was very insightful. Though written from the Canadian Law Enforcement point of view the basic relationship barriers are still the same. I would recommend this to anyone involved with someone on the force.

Excellent Reference Book

I have read this book and have reccomended it to EVERYONE who has a relationship with a Police Officer or Police Family.It was Eye opening, Jaw dropping, funny, sad, but most of all TRUTHFUL! Thank God for Vali Stone and her insight!

This Book Hits the Target

This is a well-written, easy reading book with a strong message. It should be required reading for police recruits and their spouses. I saw much of what this book lays out in my years in law enforcement. Too many good cops run into trouble by living in a world of denial. Great preparation for this tough job. Wayne D. Ford, Ph.D., author of Managing Police Stress. docwifford@msn.com

A Bible of Good Advice

Too often, communities take our police forces and their protection of society for granted. "Cops Don't Cry" is a story that needs to be told, for both the families of police officers and the public they serve, and who better to tell it than the wife of a cop. In collecting testimonies from cops and their spouses across North America along with anecdotes of her own experience, Vali Stone has uncovered the main reason for the high divorce rate among cops. It is a breakdown in communication. To show how this happens, Vali takes her readers through every step of a cop's life, from training and the stress of the daily beat to the loss of a comrade. She also shares the spouse's roller-coaster ride of emotions, from the sexual appeal of a romantic partner in uniform to pride in their job to fear that every good-bye kiss may be their last. Vali's conversational style of writing makes her feel like a friend to her readers. By the end of the book, she not only provides police families with help and hope, she also offers insights and sensible tips for all couples experiencing problems communicating with each other.