Conquering Narcissism: Transcending The Narcissistic Family Through Personal Power

By Ludwick Healy

'Conquering Narcissism' dives into the underbelly of narcissism while exploring its origins and dynamics. It also aims to illustrate the uncomfortable truth about how the narcissistic pattern perpetuates well before we enter the real world, i.e. in our families. By taking on the perspective of the vulnerable child, one can see how the trauma of neglect, abuse and smothering can stunt a person's natural growth and compromise their ability to attach to others securely. This ultimately leads to a 'splitting off' and the cultivating of a grandiose ego, or false self, which is intended to guard against further trauma and to fend off repressed shame and rage. From there, not only can the plight of the narcissist be better understood, but also that of those who grow up under their shadow. When narcissism and family meet, a fertile environment for abuse to perpetuate is created. This pattern of shamelessness and contempt can then be traced out into social structures such as romantic relationships, groups, workplaces and spiritual movements. Overcoming this pattern requires awareness of the problem as well as an inside-out approach. The four forces of a relationship - love, power, hate and shame - are explained, where balancing them in daily life is a fundamental requirement to ensure healthy relationships and inoculation from narcissism. Furthermore, 7 paradigm shifts are introduced which aim to free one from the illusion of power which the narcissist regime cultivates: 1. Split to ambivalence: Learn to have both love and hate for a person and to see them as they truly are. 2. Worship to personal power: Dispel the childhood belief that salvation lies in a 'perfect' person and take responsibility for your life. 3. Enmeshment to individuality: Embrace a life of healthy boundaries and learn how narcissists use enmeshment to control others 4. Fight/flight to wholeness: Cultivate a state of calm after a lifetime of anxiety from PTSD, which results from narcissistic abuse. 5. Control to influence: Use personal power to set an example and give up the need to control others. 6. Clinging to falling: Give up the idea that playing a role will give your life meaning. Learn to embrace nothingness, and with that your personal power. 7. Doing to being: Embrace the power of shame as an alternative to narcissism. Through shifting your paradigms, 'Conquering Narcissism' helps you reclaim your personal power while allowing you to transcend the structures of narcissism which entrap you.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1521121478
• ISBN13: 9781521121474
• Release Date: April 2017
• Publisher: Independently published
• Length: 218 Pages
• Weight: 0.66 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.6" x 6.0"