Confident Boundaries - Free Yourself from People-Pleasing, Guilt & Codependency to Create Interdependent Relationships

By Brian Tohana

Why do some people struggle more than others to communicate their boundaries? It's not because some people were taught the "right words" and others weren't. Boundaries are about something much deeper than communication skills. (Hint: Read Truth #6). Many people don't realize they are relating codependently. Brian outlines 32 key distinctions between codependent, independent and interdependent styles of relating that will support you with the awareness you need to make new choices - to change how you think, how you behave and most importantly how you see yourself (your identity) so that you can create the empowered and mutually supportive relationships that you desire. You will journey beyond communication skills to address the root of what creates boundary challenges in the first place. The journey will take us into attachment theory and complex trauma so that you can gain perspective and insight into why you struggle with boundaries in the first place, which will transform self-blame into self-compassion. From there, we'll work to rebuild your self-esteem, which is the foundation of all interdependent and empowered relationships. Interdependence is a vision for the kind of relationships you are worthy of and what relationships can be. Bust the 10 most common boundaries myths so you can: End self-doubt and overthinking and trust what you feel. Stand up for yourself instead of caving to pressure, fear or guilt. Build the confidence and self-esteem to have difficult conversations. Evolve out of codependency and love others without losing yourself. Stay out of resentment and feel worth asking for what you need. Learn the 10 Truths behind these Myths: 1) Boundaries are all about saying "no". 2) If I communicate my boundaries perfectly, I won't upset anyone. 3) I'm supposed to know what my boundaries are. 4) There are only 2 boundary options: "yes" or "no". 5) Boundaries create distance. 6) Confident boundaries are mainly about communication skills. 7) Choosing you is selfish. 8) You "set" healthy boundaries. 9) Boundaries are "crossed". 10) They have the boundaries problem, not me.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: B0CL2PT8P6
• ISBN13: 9798856531731
• Release Date: October 2023
• Publisher: Independently published
• Length: 303 Pages
• Weight: 1.16 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.7" x 6.0"