Checkmate: The Games Men Play

By Mark D. Crutcher

Book Overview

Have you ever wondered why men act the way they do and why they refuse to give up what they call their player’s card? In the national bestseller, Checkmate: The Games Men Play, Mark Crutcher writes an... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1929642504
• ISBN13: 9781929642502
• Release Date: July 2005
• Publisher: Literally Speaking Pub House
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.95 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.8" x 8.8"

Customer Reviews

A smooth-talking, lip-smacking, self-confessed gigolo...

Title: CHECKMATE: The Games Men Play Author: Mark D. Crutcher Genre: non-fiction/self-help/ relationships Publication date: 2005 ISBN: 1-929642-50-4 Length: 205 pages Edition: Hardback Checkmate ~ The Games Men Play ~ Mark D. Crutcher ~ Literally Speaking Publishing House "To gain understanding of the dating process, what better way to learn than from a smooth-talking, lip-smacking, self-confessed gigolo who knows how to play the game better than anyone?" They say pride comes before a fall and that's exactly what happened to the author of this book. After playing games with the hearts of many women and acting like the eternal Peter Pan, Mark D. Crutcher, a self-confessed PLAYER (gigolo and ladies man) finally received his ultimate comeuppance when his fiancée jilted him at the alter in front of everybody. To add insult to injury, his wife-to-be married someone else on the same day! As Mark's whole world came crashing down around him, he was forced to rethink his life and search deep into his soul for answers. It was time to come to terms with being jilted. It didn't take him long to realise how the hurt he felt was nothing compared to the pain he caused all the women who trusted and loved him. He played games with their lives for his own selfish needs. But not anymore! Having realised the error of his ways, Mark, the son of the founder of his local church, finally turned back to God for comfort. He decided to take responsibility for his actions. Written in the aftermath of being jilted by the woman he loved, (although I don't think he realised it until it was too late) this book serves as a warning to other women dating a PLAYER. PLAYERS may seem like harmless, cheeky chappies, but it takes a lot of effort and calculating planning to achieve such a high level of deceit with so many women at the same time. For instance, Mark knew that if a woman lived locally, he must opt for the subtler approach, but if a woman he fancied lived out of his neighbourhood, he'd have to up the stakes and aggressively pursue his sexual pawn within an estimated time frame if he was to bed her. Sounds like a lot of hard work to me but to a PLAYER this comes naturally. In addition, the game is not over when a PLAYER reaches the point of having sex with his pawn for the first time; in fact it's only just begun. By using well thought out tactics he then begins to work on the mind of the woman in an attempt to control her. Yes, brainstorming the perfect outcome is a 24/7 job, and with all this experience PLAYERS are constantly learning from their mistakes and improving their success rate. By the way, although this empowering book is aimed at women, I would suggest women keep this book away from their men! In the wrong hands `Checkmate ~ The Games Men Play' could be used as a cleverly disguised manual to teach men how to weave their way into your life and control it! In conclusion, this National Bestseller is an analytical account of Mark D. Crutcher's own life as a

WOW!!!!!

Wow! This book was so informative in revealing the way (some) men think of, evaluate and categorize women and relationships. I've just been hurt by someone who was a major player. I was experiencing some serious self doubt and confusion when I stumbled across this book. Literally. This book was a Godsend. As I read the book, I began to recognize the subtle tactics that he used to make me trust him. After finishing this book, I realize that I didn't do anything wrong. Unfortunately for me, he was just "playing". This book was good because it went deeper into explaining the way men think and what motivates their decisions to be with one woman or another. Every woman wants to be recognized and appreciated as being special. However, men know they can use that fantasy against us. Because the truth is, while we each have our uniqueness, we are not really special in the eyes of many men. The sooner we realize that, the less traumatized we'll be.

The Ultimate Checklist to Identify Players

First of all, I really appreciate authors like Mr. Crutcher openly wrote a book about the games men played in the dating arena. Mr. Crutcher has a fun, yet a compassionate tone when he was writing this book. Checkmate: The Games Men Play is one of those books that offer a checklist for women to identify players. It must not be easy for Mr. Crutcher to face and confront his past of being a player, suffering from layers of guilt and shame. I think this will always happen to manipulative people (does not matter whether you are a man or a woman) one day when they look back. Eventually, one just has to pay their dues by enduring the emotional (sometimes even physical) sufferings when we choose to run games on others. I believe players happen in both sexes and manipulation games happen both ways. If you were hurt by players, this book helps you surface the truth and answers questions as of why he is the way he is. But this book will also stir your anger towards men in general at the same time. Don't worry. Take the experience as a learning journey and take this book as a checklist. This book is every woman's guide to identify players early in the game before women sink deep. But certainly not one that help you feel loved and better. It is only when you walk through the peaks and valleys, you learn about those manipulation games men play for sex and for the satisfaction of their ego. Their bad behavior hopefully acts as an inspiration for us as women to be a wiser, more compassionate and more loving people instead of following the players' unconscious, manipulative and stupid, naive behaviors. I believe what goes around comes around. Maybe you do not see them suffer at this point of your life and you ask God and everyone else why it is so unfair. However, I really believe when one has played enough manipulation games just to satisfy their ego and sense of illusionary power, one will attract another who pulls the same games and tactics. One will eventually taste their own medicine by falling into traps they set forth for others. I once encountered a playboy who is everything Mr. Crutcher mentioned in his book. Ultimately, a playboy has a sickening desire wanting women to suffer for them and wanting women to depend on him to give him the illusion of power and control. So, when women turn around standing on her two feet (even better when you have the guts to step on his toes), they earn their painful lessons in the hardest way. That was how my playboy ex (well, you see, he tried to use committed relationship as a vehicle to get what he wanted... only I turned around and stepped his toes in the least expected way) learnt. Every once a while, I will assure you that your player ex will call and try to ask you back because he failed the challenge. But it makes us women feel more empowered when we say no and divorce ourselves from these drama kings. Some days I still think about my player ex wondering whether he learnt his lessons. But

Pleasing to the eyes and ears!!!!

This book really surprised me. It was well written and had lots of information for the single woman. I highly recommend it to any one who is at odds about what they want out of a relationship. I met the author at the Romance Slam Jam and I told him I was going to buy his book and let him autograph it. He politely told me that it was not a romance novel. I must admit I read it the same night. It was fantastic and I have recommended to all my friends. I give a high five to Mr. Crutcher and patiently wait for the next installment to the book.!!!!

Women of Integrity Book Club

Hello Mr. Crutcher,I really enjoyed your book. It is a very well written, straight forward, and to the point. It is filled with what the reality of dating and things that people (men particularly) do to get what they want for the moment they may want it. I really like the way you named the chapters with the guys name you were using for the particular senario. Thank you for pointing out the way that women respond to the way that the men could act out. It's the truth, and women need to know those type of things from a males perspective. I personally enjoy getting a males perspective on relationships and the way they play their role out. Also getting your say in the signs to look for with certain games that could be played. Overall rating for me would be 5 stars for an excellent written piece. I wish you much success in you career as an author and I definately look forward to reading your next piece. I'm sure I'll see you again visiting Black Images