Case Against Divorce

By Diane Medved

Book Overview

Despite the pain, the emotional turmoil, the fights and the tears, marital problems can be solved -- without ending in a trauma that will haunt you and your family for years. Written by a renowned clinical psychologist, this reassuring book reveals how your family, your friends, and even society at large can inadvertently encourage divorce -- and subtly deceive you into thinking that single is better. Discover: -- Step-by-step methods for recognizing your marital problems and working them out-together. -- The very valid reasons to stay together that are usually given bum raps, including "We Should Stay Together for the Sake of the Children" and "I'm Staying in My Marriage Because I Can't Face Being Alone." -- The most common reasons given for divorce -- and why they are, more often than not, excuses for not wanting to face the difficulties of marriage. -- The destructive myths of divorce, including "The Fresh Start." "Meeting Lovers is Easy," and the "Greener Grass Syndrome." -- The exceptional situations when divorce really is the only answer. -- And much more.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1556111274
• ISBN13: 9781556111273
• Release Date: May 1989
• Publisher: Dutton Books
• Length: 262 Pages
• Weight: 1.20 lbs.

Customer Reviews

Logic helps provide a case against divorce, eases the pain

I read this book because I wanted to read a book from the perspective of "working it out". I expected to be able to argue with any reason for staying together because I had been betrayed. I'm grateful that I read it with an open mind because I found most of my reasons right there and the author provided solid evidence to challenge my justifications. I still don't know where I stand as far as getting a divorce or staying married, but it stopped me in my tracks. I was so hurt that I wanted to cut my husband of my life, just to be rid of the pain. But, even though the divorce papers may be signed, there is still a deep loss. It's a popular misconception that once the divorce is signed, there will be relief. Even though my husband betrayed me, I saw that I was not 100% the victim and thousands of people have experienced what I have and that there is hope. This is a great book to read if when you think that you're sure you want a divorce. You may change your mind. Even if you don't, this book does give a case against divorce.

A better understanding of why relationships work or do not.

This book has explained in an intelligent manner why some relationships struggle. It gives an honest and sometimes brutal opinion of people. I was surprised to find out that the way family and friends react can impact and even help destroy a marriage. My wife left me and I know she was supported through this when her friends could have pushed her to get help. Instead, they told her things would be okay without giving her reasons why things would be okay. They were there for her for themselves. Dont get me wrong, I accept my responsibility for our struggles 50-50 but did not get a chance to fix my marriage soon enough. I still have some hope. If your marriage is struggling read this and have your spouse read this. Have your family read this. Dont let anyone impact your marriage without some intelligent thought behind their words.

A must read book!

If you are considering divorce or are going through a divorce, this is a must read book! This book does a wonderful job describing the Lie and Lures of divorce and why your marriage is worth saving. After having an unwanted divorce served upon me I feel much better knowing it's easier to try and work things out instead of just throwing in the towel. Anyone who wants a divorce should read this, I wish my husband would have!

Excellent ideas for those contemplating divorce!

As a divorce mediator for Divorce Without Battle, I frequently deal with clients who are undecided about taking this big step (divorce is often equated with death as to the impact it has on the family). Without hesitation, I heartily recommend this book to both spouses. Often they see that there is still hope and, although I lose clients this way, it is tremendously rewarding to see marriages saved!

Tremendously helpful. My marriage is 100% better.

My 20-year marriage seemed hopeless. I had gotten a list of divorce lawyers. Then I read this book. My husband and I decided that maybe there was hope. Our feelings didn't change right away, but by changing our attitude about marriage and divorce, we found the strength to try harder to make it work. The book was the main stimulus to help us do this. We are so glad it helped, and so are our children.