Brain Injury: A Family Tragedy

By Jeffery Abrahamson and Patt Abrahamson

the author shows us how the devastation of a lifetime can be used to find hope and purpose where none seemingly exists. This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1882855566
• ISBN13: 9781882855568
• Release Date: January 1997
• Publisher: Hdi Pub
• Length: 239 Pages
• Weight: 1.00 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.3" x 0.8" x 6.3"

Customer Reviews

A Labor of Love

Two years ago in 2001, my husband, Patrick and I met Patt & Gary Abrahamson and their son, Gary Jr. outside of our condominium in Ft. Myers, Fl. After introducing ourselves, we recognized that Gary Jr. was severely handicapped and needed the full assistance from both of his parents. At the time we didn't ask any questions but learned from other people in our building that he was brain-injured and needed 24-hour care. After we became more acquainted with them we realized what total care really meant. They are the most dedicated and unselfish parents we have ever known and that takes in a lot of territory. It was only after we had the opportunity to read this book (which we couldn't put down) did we realize the magnitude of sacrifice that this family has been through. They are truly an inspiration to all of us. Their whole life revolves around Gary Jr. each and every day from the time they awaken until the time they go to sleep. Gary Jr. is their life. They have accepted God's will and turned their family tragedy into a "Parents Labor of Love". This book is a must-read for all parents and children alike and especially for those of us who complain about the trivial things of life. It is our honor and extreme pleasure to call these people our friends.Rita & Patrick Ryan

Well told; Written for the non-medical, "regular" people

I began to read this book with the idea of being able to learn to help myself (mildly brain injured due to a tumor), and, most especially, to be able to help a close friend who, is in NeuroICU (over 8 weeks as of this writing) from a TBI caused by an assault (still under investigation which is my reason for remaining anonymous). From my own experience I know that he will never be the same person he was. At this time, I don't know what he has been "left with" in terms of function - physical, emotional, or mental. I learned a lot from Mrs. Abrahamson's book, from her experiences as she has negotiated this mine field of so called services and experts..... there is a tremendous amount of misunderstanding and, yes, prejudice against the brain injured. People don't understand that it can't get "all better" with an operation or a medication. Perhaps it's too frightening to imagine and they don't WANT to understand. This is something that can happen to ANY of us. The fact that the injury is "invisible" leaves us open to the misunderstandings and cruelty - we're thought of as "crazy" or "stupid" etc.. A person with a VISIBLE disablity often has more chance of being understood and assisted - at least medically. There were many times, as I read this, that I recognized parts of "the new me" in Mrs. Abrahamson's writings - most especially the memories and loss of memories. I've had to relearn events (I have some missing years), I've learned about deaths in my family - and grieved well after the fact because the death was new to me - my body may have attended funerals but my mind, my brain did not.I can see, from my own life, as well as what is happening to my friend and his family, the terrible strain on family members, family dynamics, the finances (I haven't found insurance companies to be all that helpful in covering the specialized neuro-psychological help and cognitive training that is desperately needed. It's a very hard thing for a relationship to survive, as evidenced by the breakup and breakdown of the Abrahmson family. I know of several families that have broken up over this type of injury (my experience mostly is with brain tumor injury but, in a lot of ways, the results and the attitudes are the same). My heart goes out to ALL of them -the injured as well as their families. Please forgive my writing - I'm trying to be as clear and organized as I can. You see, I too have short-term memory issues (though mine are fairly mild all things considered) and also problems with executive functions. Staying focused and on task, and paying attention requires tremendous effort these days (and my insurance will not allow me to seek the help I need to overcome/learn to live with these issues). I have learned that the best way for me to communicate is in writing because I can come back to it, edit, re-edit and I have much difficulty with "finding" words. Bless all of us - the brain injured, the families and please let's pray for more understandi

Informative and Inspiring

Brain Injury - A Family Tragedy is a must read. It gives good insight as to how devastating a brain injury is and its affect on relationships within the family.It shows the struggle that families go through trying to deal with our current health care system. And it shows how strong the parent/child bond really is- even when we are adults. I have been a small part of Gary's health care team for the past four winters in Florida, his parents are the big part and we share his good days, his laughs, his hard times and health concerns. This book is a very accurate portrayal of what brain injury can do - it also depicts an accurate account of the love Gary receives everyday. I have become part of their extended family because Gary Sr. and Patt are such warm and caring people and even though we do have a tough day, on occasion, I truly enjoy my time with Gary - his sense of humor still seeps through his dark world and he makes me laugh everyday.

Unbelievably compelling, compassionate & informative .

I was a Court Reporter for 30 years and was shocked the first time I heard the phrase, "There are worse things than death," but I soon learned its true meaning. What the Abrahamsons have gone through is truly a tragedy and "worse than death".For Patt to be able to portray in her book, the agony, the heartbreak, the stress and the tenacity to break through the bureaucracy is the mark of a very special person. Only a mother's love could carry someone through such times and come out on top.I've known Patt for years and have seen some of her columns in the local paper, but never dreamed she could put all these feelings and happenings into a book. They are a wonderful family and in spite of Gary, Jr.'s 24 hour a day care, they are living life to the fullest as best they can.Once I started reading her book, I could hardly wait to get to the next chapter. It was difficult to put the book down and others have told me the same. What a manual for people going through the same kind of difficulties. You have to walk in those footsteps to really understand.Nina Johnson

Inspirational in the face of Adversity

The book is inspirational, well written and interesting. It touches all of our emotions. You will alternatively laugh and cry with this family's experiences. You will celebrate the love and devotion the family displays as well as the indignity and negligence the main character indures throughout his fight for a virtuous existence. The book can be a self-help reference for those who don't know where to turn when their brain injured loved one falls through the cracks of our society's mandates. Brain Injury - A Family Tragedy, can help families who unfortunately have to experience this type of tragedy, by offering coping skills to learn from through another family's experiences.