Being Grateful: Becoming Whole

By David Tuffley

What, precisely, is gratitude? At its simplest, it is a profound sense of appreciation - for the tangible and the intangible alike, for the life we inhabit and the world that surrounds us. The word itself descends from the Latin *gratia*, meaning grace, and that etymology is no accident. Gratitude is, in the truest sense, a state of grace: an elevated orientation of mind and spirit that this book sets out to cultivate in you, along with the many and well-documented benefits that flow from it.

To live with an attitude of gratitude is to bring your inner world into harmony with your outer one. It is to recognise that so much of what nourishes and sustains you comes from a source beyond yourself - and to feel, in that recognition, not diminished but enlarged. Gratitude makes you whole by making you part of something greater.

How we perceive the world is always, ultimately, within our own jurisdiction - however stubbornly circumstance may suggest otherwise. The optimist and the pessimist inhabit identical situations yet arrive at entirely different conclusions. A genuinely grateful outlook is an essentially optimistic one: a daily practice of noticing that something good, something instructive, something of genuine value can be found in any situation. The world, on this view, is not obliged to pander to your wants. It is, however, quietly and reliably providing for your needs.

This providential way of seeing allows you to reach beyond the boundaries of the self - toward your community, toward nature, toward whatever you understand as a higher power. In transcending the ego and connecting with a larger reality, you discover the deepest source of human happiness. Religions and philosophies across the centuries have recognised this. Yet for many people today, the link between gratitude and genuine well-being remains elusive - obscured, perhaps, by a culture of complaint and entitlement that produces precisely the opposite of what it promises. This book seeks to make that connection not merely visible but liveable.

None of this implies passive acceptance of poor treatment or shoddy service. You may still name a deficiency and have it corrected. Gratitude is not resignation; it is a positive stance from which you engage the world with both honesty and equanimity.

Modern psychology has been slow to arrive at what ancient wisdom long knew. For most of its history, the discipline has concentrated on what is wrong with people rather than what is right. That is changing. A substantial and growing body of research now confirms that higher levels of gratitude correlate with higher levels of subjective well-being and psychological resilience. You can be happier, and considerably less prone to depression, even when your circumstances are modest - because you have trained yourself to notice and appreciate the good that is present in every situation. At a time when depression in the developed world has reached historic levels, this is not a small thing.

The practice of gratitude also strengthens your capacity to absorb the setbacks that life inevitably delivers. It restores a sense of agency: you cannot always govern events, nor the behaviour of others, but you can govern your response to them - choosing to think in ways that are life-affirming, purposeful, and ultimately freeing.

Gratitude, then, is an idea that has come full circle. The Roman philosopher Cicero held that it was not merely the greatest of the virtues but the very parent of all the others. Two thousand years later, the positive psychology movement has arrived, by a different route, at the same conclusion. This book is your guide to making that ancient truth your own.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1507741286
• ISBN13: 9781507741283
• Release Date: January 2015
• Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
• Length: 74 Pages
• Weight: 0.21 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.1" x 5.5" x 8.5"