Altered Dreams...: Living with Gender Disappointment

By Katherine Asbery and Katherine Asbery, MA

Book Overview

Hearing "It's a BOY!" should have brought me great joy, but instead, it brought me months of anger and denial as well as a lot of sadness and shame at times. I wanted to experience raising a daughter... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1438935455
• ISBN13: 9781438935454
• Release Date: December 2008
• Publisher: Authorhouse
• Length: 160 Pages
• Weight: 0.59 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

Ignore Ben's Insipid Review and read this book!

I am pleased to have just read the Associated Press article released about Ms. Asbery and gender disappointment after having read her informative and sensitive book on the same subject. The reviewer who spouted off without thinking is obviously one of the many people in our society who do not understand the real pain and anguish that can be associated with having gone through this experience. Bravo to Ms. Asbery for bringing the subject to light so more women will not feel so alone. I had hoped to do the same with my own Novel,(based on the circumstances of being guaranteed that I was carrying a baby girl after not one, not two but THREE different sonographers and doctors told me so after viewing my ultrasound only to have a delivery room shock). The experience was harrowing to say the least when nobody around me understood my sorrow at the loss of a dream that was very real in my head. There is currently a very negative article about me and this subject in Elle magazine (where I was misquoted and further falsehoods were perpetrated) and because of that, I was just the subject of a radio talk show in which the hosts termed me "selfish, psychotic and an unfit mother." This is a very misunderstood issue (WE LOVE AND ADORE ALL OF OUR CHILDREN EQUALLY!) and I am sure MANY women are grateful to have it addressed in the effective manner that Ms. Asbery does in Altered Dreams.

Thank you for writing this book

Thank you so much for writing this book about this issue that so many are unwilling to face. I love my three boys...but I had issues to work through when the third was confirmed to be of the male gender. Your book validated my feelings and helped me so much.

It's About Time!!

Coming from someone who has suffered gender disappointment I am so pleased that Ms. Asbery has written this wonderful book. She has finally allowed so many of us to discuss this topic without feeling guilty for our feelings. She shares with us the readers her personal journey dealing with gender disappointment and how she has learned to live her life with her amazing 3 boys!! She also allows us to "meet" many other women who have battled with this as well. Reading this book made me feel like I was not alone in this. Many people suffer with this everyday but do not speak about it or get help to work through it. I truely think this book will help countless women as they come to grips with their feelings on this topic.