A Man and His Mother: An Adopted Son's Search

By Tim Green

The bestselling author of The Dark Side of the Game, former Atlanta Falcon Tim Green, delivers a heartfelt narrative of his quest to find his biological mother and understand his own roots. of photos. This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0060392177
• ISBN13: 9780060392178
• Release Date: January 1997
• Publisher: Harpercollins
• Length: 225 Pages
• Weight: 1.26 lbs.
• Dimensions: 10.0" x 1.0" x 6.5"

Customer Reviews

Adoptive Father's Review

I recently discovered an author that has inspired, intrigued and compelled me to finish his work in one sitting, something I've not accomplished in quite some time. Tim Green, a former Atlanta Falcons football player, FOX-TV Sports host, lawyer and prolific author captivated me with his very personal, very vulnerable story of growing up adopted in the 60s and 70s. His story, I believe, is a must-read for every adoptive parent and professional who labor with the inner turmoil of those stripped of all legal and physical ties to those to whom they owe their very existence. Tim, adopted as an infant, was a reticent young man early on. He had, however, bottled up inside him emotions that manifested in horrible nightmares difficult to escape on a nightly basis. Intelligent and driven, he strived to be the best at everything so as to win the approval of all in his circle. Yet, even the praise and glory of triumph did not assuage the churning cauldron of something going on inside him. Tim was aware that he was different from his peers...not fitting in and called "Timidthy" because of his hyperbolic fear or sad reactions in proportion to the event. Remembering an incident from his elementary years Tim writes: "In all honesty, I didn't understand myself. Being sad is one thing, hysterics are quite another. But the thing that bothered me about Charlotte's death [from Charlotte's Web] more than anything were the little babies she left behind. Charlotte was a beautiful creature. I loved Charlotte. Her children would never know her, and it was that fact that made me hysterical. At that time, I had no way of knowing why." Ostracized by peers and feeling very alone, Tim continued through adolescence never speaking about his adoption although it was quite evident to those that knew him and his parents. People perceived quite readily that he had none of the physical features of the two he called Mom and Dad. Convinced that others, too, saw him as a throw-away child he believed himself to be, he felt ill as he responded to queries about the adoption issue. Interestingly, an adolescent peer, too, was adopted. While camping in Matt's backyard one summer night, his friend broached the subject with Tim, asking him if he ever thought about his biological parents. "I don't have any other parents," I hissed maliciously, as if I were spitting on his mangled corpse, hating him for tripping the wire, for bringing me so close to my own destruction, for, as far as our friendship went, destroying himself." The friendship with Matt abruptly ended; rage consumed Tim as he trekked through the neighborhood back to his home where he felt safe "at least for the time being." While a star athlete, gifted and determined, Tim's life was anything but easy as one might expect from such a person with stellar abilities. He is haunted by his unknown past. Myself being an adoptive parent and counselor with almost three decades of working with young people (and adults) who

Helps Readers See a Male Adoptee's Perspective

I thoroughly enjoyed this book and believe it provides a rare and intimate look into the heart of a male adoptee. Not much is written for male adoptees, or those who love them. Therefore, I applaud Tim's courage and admire his journey. It would be a great resource for an all-adoptee male support group!

A Man and His Mother: An Adopted Son's Search

Tim Green is a wonderful writer who details, with earnest passion, the search for his birth mother. This book is a must read for all birth mothers and all adopted children.

Great insight into life as an adopted male adult

I was given this book by my adoptive parents on my 30th Birthday. I figured I would give it a once over since it was a gift and I wanted to show iterest. I could not put it down once I picked it up. I have a similar story having found both of my biological parents at the same age as Mr. Green did. I was blessed, like Mr. Green, to have had a positive outcome to my search. I found the book well written and honest. I could identify with many of the thoughts, emotions, and experiences Mr. Green described. I also enjoyed it because it was from an adopted male's point of view. It is a great read even if you are not an adopted child or parent of one.

Well Written

I read this book a little over a year ago and thought the book was very good. I enjoy reading about people's lives and to learn of how they work out things in their lives. It helps us the readers to see that we do have options on working out our own problems. I know Mr. Green has helped quite a few people with his book. I would like to read how things are going for him and natural parents and adopted parents now?