Why Men Fall Out of Love: What Every Woman Needs to Understand

by Michael R. French

Book Overview

The groundbreaking book that breaks the silence of the male code. Why do men fall out of love? It's rarely a simple issue of attraction, sex, or money trouble. In this provocative no-holds-barred... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0345492919
• ISBN13: 9780345492913
• Release Date: March 2007
• Publisher: Ballantine Books
• Length: 368 Pages
• Weight: 0.65 lbs.
• Dimensions: 8.0" x 0.8" x 4.8"

Customer Reviews

Realistic, insightful and fresh analysis

This book combines very helpful, prescriptive advice for any couple about keeping relationships alive and fresh, with lots of insights not found in other self-help books about why men lose the handle on relationships and give up so easily. The problem for men is sometimes deep and systemic and pop culture fixes and cliches are a waste. As a woman I found this fresh analysis void of cliches and instead it hits on important truths. Anyone in relationship denial won't respond well to this book, but those with a curious and rational heart will.

Excellent insights for keeping love alive

What a valuable tool this book is to men and women who discover that the elements that initially attracted them to each other--that caused them to fall in love--are insufficient to sustain their relationship over the long term. The author has managed to get ten sensitive and intelligent men to candidly and fully reveal their innermost selves. We come to understand how the influence of their parents--particularly their mothers--in early childhood, create the needs and desires that lead them to fall in love with the person they have chosen. They are not aware of this at the time, but come to understand it years later as they seek to learn why these needs are no longer satisfied by that person. The analysis after each man's story shows how the understanding of the dynamics of need and attraction presents both the man and his love with the possibility of transforming themselves to adapt to the unfulfilled needs, thus falling back in love and sustaining their relationship. This book offers hope and a path to those struggling to keep their love alive.

Simply loved it

As a man,I found this book to be extremely insightful... particularly regarding childhood issues and how they affect your behavior in an adult relationship. The complexity of relationships is not something men deal with easily, but this book gives you access points, not just to your own emotions but your partner's also, and provides a number of fixes. After looking at my relationship with my parents, I now have a new perspective into who I am, and why I am that way.

A must for all relationships!

This is not your garden variety self help book or relationship guide. No ten step program to instant and lasting happiness. Instead the author focuses on the emotional and often hidden lives of men as an explanation of why love sometimes fails. Lots of good insights as he peels back the layers of masculinity, popular culture, and childhood issues. French is saying that when men begin to be more open and assertive about their feelings, that's when personal growth occurs, and their relationships become stronger. If you're a woman, the message is also clear: check in emotionally with your man, and check in often, before he disengages.

An honest, thorough, and insightful look into relationships

This book is excellent both in terms of content and construction. Each chapter is a different man's story and reflection of his life and past relationships. Each reflection is surprisingly open and honest. This book is an opportunity for both men and women to question, share and understand what it takes to have a long-lasting, strong, physical and emotional relationship. I highly recommend this book for any individual or couple wanting to explore deeper into their emotional relationships.