Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad: Ten Prescriptions to Heal Your Relationship

by Mira Kirshenbaum

Book Overview

Once the relationship was healthy. And now it's in trouble. Rather than working unproductively, feeling confused, and grasping for tired solutions that seem complicated and irrelevant, do something about it. This book will show you how to sort through all the pain and confusion in your relationship, put your finger on exactly what's been causing all your troubles, and find the precise way to eliminate them.

Psychotherapist and bestselling author...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0380795779
• ISBN13: 9780380795772
• Release Date: February 1999
• Publisher: William Morrow & Company
• Length: 336 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.2" x 8.0"

Customer Reviews

Hands On, Truly Helpful

Something must happen. You need immediate results. You have to be able to actually realize the recipes. This hands on classic is for your. Yes, it is not always easy to realize Kirshenbaums recipes. Yes, it is not always pleasurable. But you find steps you can actually go. You find steps that lead to outright positive results. Kirshenbaum demonstrates ten different basic problems in relations. She starts from simple ones and ends with the difficult. It is enough for the beginning to identify exactly one problem. Help for other problems comes as a side effect. A beautiful first aid and an excellent book. A must read.

Making love and making love work

Mira Kirshenbaum truly illuminates the meaning of a loving relationship. A "no nonsense" sort of person, she methodically lists what might be causing pain in a loving relationship, and teaches the reader to fix the problems and rekindle the joy in loving. In a negative way, it was extremely helpful to me. It showed me how far my marriage had strayed from a working ideal and gave me the courage to change. From the Diagnosis of Love Killers, Routine Maintenance, Criticism, Distancing, Not Communicating, Needs, Sexual Depression, Difference Sickness, Problem People, to Low Expectations; she helped me see what a marriage should be. This was one more of her books that gave me what I needed to initiate changes in my life. I have bought many copies for friends and patients, and I am sure that I will buy many more. A truly worthwhile book by a brilliant author.

Unbelievably helpful to my life and marriage

This book, the paperback version of "Our Love...", did for me what no advice from friends or family could do. It gave me real tools to work out my problems with my husband. We can talk to each other in a clear way, and love each other in a healthy way. With all my heart I want to thank Ms. Kirshenbaum for writing this book!

This book opened up my heart and my mind.

I have only picked up three other relationship books, with only one of them being a bestseller but I have never been so into a book like I was with Our Love.... Not only did it help me identify the love killers in my relationship but it also gave me hope. I may have fallen into the love is already dead category she describes but now I know why and where it may have made a difference. The great thing was that when I noticed Ms. Kirshenbaum had an e mail address at the end of the book, I emailed her and asked for a recommendation. She wrote back. She was so helpful. Most of all you feel like she is talking to you throughout the book so getting a response from her solidified her caring nature. I recommend this book to anyone who may have lost hope in their relationships. If the love is still there, then the hope will return once you start reading this book.

This is the book I've been waiting for--it's the best

This is the first book my wife and I have found to tell us exactly what's wrong with our relationship and how to fix it. It's been about ten days now and it feels like we've finally got our love back. I love the idea of diagnosing your love killer so you can get rid of it. I like the stories too. Finally someone's offering real help you can use.