The Dating Cure: The Prescription for Ms. Eternal Bachelorette, Ms. All about Me, Ms. Can't Let Go, and Ms. Matrimony

by Rhonda Findling and rhonda Finding

The Dating Cure is a book for any woman who is on the dating scene but isn't getting the long-term relationship she wants. Findling helps women identify themselves in one of the eight major dating... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1593372612
• ISBN13: 9781593372613
• Release Date: June 2005
• Publisher: Polka Dot Press
• Length: 246 Pages
• Weight: 0.66 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.6" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

bought as a gift but read it myself!

No higher review than liking a book so much that it becomes part of your own library instead of getting gift wrapped. I bought this for a friend's birthday... and even though I'm not in the market for a date, I learned so much about my interactions with others, that I kept the book myself to finish and share. Sold, practical analysis of your relationship style that can be applied in non-dating situations, from my perspective. I think it would be useful from new-to-dating up through the senior citizens on the dating scene. (There, now my friend won't be identified - I've just covered the 50 year spectrum of the women in my life who are "looking!").

Worth every penny and sooo easy to read and follow.....

This book nails it! It catagorizes the types of men we have all dated and helps us see them for who they are/were. I would highly recommend this book. It is wonderful to see the different types of men who can't give themselves to us. It is NOTHING we did. We did not break them and it is NOT our job to fix them. Wake up ladies and realize the time we waste on those detour men could be better spent accepting and loving our selves and giving into our friendships. If you have done your best and it still isn't working or he is toxic Please cut your ties to him. It rarely if ever gets better and pulling us down with them destroys two spirits. You deserve better and there will be men out there that will cherish you and love you. Without the DRAMA. Life is too short, but way too long when wasted on a hopeless cause like toxic men!

More light on the problem

I'm one of the men in the Roundtable of Men in the book who gave feedback on dating and relationships. Now for the book: First, any woman having difficulty meeting and dating needs to ask herself some questions: Is there something about me or my approach that turns men off? Am I sending out rejecting messages at the same time as I am trying to charm? Rhonda's book provides a helpful tool for getting the answer to these questions. A woman who can recognize herself in any of these seven relationship-destroying types has taken a big first step in getting out of the trap she is in. Of course, as in any typology, none of these seven may fit you perfectly, but you may recognize in one or another of these seven types, something familiar, something that seems like you or the way you operate with men. If you do, that's something to work on. If you see Ms. All About Me, you should try more listening and empathy. If you spot Ms. Matrimony, then it's time to be more discreet about your grand ambition. And so on for each of the seven types. The book gives many specific action suggestions for each type. The key is recognizing yourself in any of these types. Now, it does take a willingness to look at oneself to use the tool effectively. Not every woman is willing to do that. It's so much easier and more comforting to blame one's loneliness on the lack of eligible men or complain that men are shallow and interested only in instant sex. Second, The Roundtable of Men is a great bonus, I think. Here is a chance to listen to men talk about what they really want from women--and it's not just sex.

This book really helped me ! Very useful !

This is Ms. Findling's 3rd book, and I was very happy to get my hands on it ! As usual, she is intelligent, offers well-thought out-advice, and this info. actually helps a woman keep her self-esteem intact while she is in the sometimes mysterious dating world ! This helped me struggle with my own ambivalence about whether I want to hold out for chemistry, or hook up with a man because marriage is a very important goal for me... I definitely think I fit into the eternal bachelorette category, which Rhonda F. discusses in one of her chapters. It's not always about a man not being emotionally available ! As opposed to what the above reviewer said, Ms. Findling DOES suggest discussing exclusivity on page 120 with your potential partner. The author's chapter on 'when is the right time to have sex with a man' really made sense to me, because you have to go with your gut instincts about what is important to you and what you value, and not play games. "When" is a choice, and a risk, but it shouldn't be a blind one.

Mutual understanding with this book

I believe this book had a great deal of truth to it. She's not one sided in blaming men for every crushing relationship they've had, but shows how women can own their parts in causing men to distance from them or not want to have a permanent relationship with them. This book is a perfect guide to successful relationships. What kept my interest was how she had a group of men which she called "The Round Table Of Men" that gave their honest opinions on what a lot of women ponder about.