The Control Freak

by Les Parrott III

Book Overview

They're pushy. Forceful. Impatient. Always in a hurry. And they're usually ready to tell others how to do their jobs "better." Control freaks. Maybe you know one. Maybe you are one. What are you to... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 084233792X
• ISBN13: 9780842337922
• Release Date: June 2000
• Publisher: Tyndale House Publishers
• Length: 200 Pages
• Weight: 0.95 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 6.3" x 9.3"

Customer Reviews

Good read

I picked up this book becuase I had problems with a few control freaks in my life. Reading it gave me a new perspective on why people control and how wide the scope can be. I'm also shocked to realise that a person like myself who's struggling with control freaks also has some control issues. Ironical as it sounds, Les is right to say that "it takes one to know one". I'll recommend this book to anyone who's dealing with controlling people in their lives. It also provides suggestions on ways to improve those relationships.

A Handbook for Dealing with Pushy, Domineering People

Les Parrott is a Christian psychology professor and author of several best sellers. He is well-known in the Christian community and is the founder and co-director of the Center for Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University. I have found Dr. Parrott's writings very useful in my ministry for adult children of abusive or controlling birth-families, Luke 17:3 Ministries. In this book, Dr. Parrott teaches us how to recognize a control freak and discusses their top ten characteristics- obnoxious, tenacious, invasive, obsessive, perfectionist, critical, irritable, demanding, rigid, and closeminded. A Control Freak has little respect for privacy and snoops in areas that aren't her business. It doesn't matter how illogical his argument or how insignificant his point, he won't let go. He often zeroes in on some minor detail and doesn't care about the big picture. Compromise is unspeakable- she is right and everybody else is wrong. She sets standards you never agreed to live by. Anything and everything is cause for a tantrum. He will make ridiculous demands and insist or coerce you into doing things his way. He uses criticism as a terrific tool to get people to do what he wants them to. There is a Control-Freak Self-Test which will tell you if you know a control-freak. Yes or No questions include: If something isn't exactly to this person's liking, he or she reflexively points it out- even at the risk of embarrassing others; It seems that winning an argument is more important to this person than finding the best solution; and If this person doesn't get what he or she wants, you can count on a good display of anger, pouting, or the silent treatment. The WADIT Principle is explained in a grimly humorous way. We continue forever to do something silly that doesn't make sense because of the WADIT Principle- because that is the way We Always Did It. Various types of Control-Freaks are discussed, as well as how to cope with them, including chapters on The Pushy Parent and The Invasive In-Law. Each chapter includes a self-test so you can see if you have a Pushy Parent or Invasive In-Law. Setting boundaries, saying "No", forgiveness, identifying your own reactive style, and making decisions are all discussed. We are also taught how to tame our own controlling tendencies. This is a very interesting and informative book for those with controlling family members, or other controlling people in their lives, and I highly recommend it.

Who's a Control Freak?

As a previously self-diagnosed Control Freak, this book is a real eye opener. Good for both the CF and those who live or work with CF's. An honest appraisal and reading of the suggestions was very helpful.

Necessary

Loving 3 control freaks who are in my family; this book has totally enlightened me on the "Why?" and banished my greatest fear - that I would become one too. Excellent writing kept me glued to the pages - I inhaled the entire book in two days. If you ARE a Control Freak (and that's not all bad - just needs to be redirected, which you'll learn how to do in the book) or if you love a Control Freak - READ IT - it could save your most cherished relationships.

Coming from a true Control Freak...

This book gives some practical help for both Control Freaks as well as the people that live with them. Parrott has a sense of humor and the book was easy to read, comprehend and implement. I would highly recommend the book for anyone who is or who deals with a Control Freak on an ongoing basis.