Red Hot Relationships

by Shari L. Kirkland and Lorel L. Lindstrom

Anger is the number one threat to happy relationships, according to Drs. Shari Kirkland and Lorel Lindstrom. As published psychologists with a multi-cultural perspective, they have collectively seen... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0882821687
• ISBN13: 9780882821689
• Release Date: November 1998
• Publisher: New Horizon Press
• Length: 200 Pages
• Weight: 1.20 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

A MUST-READ if you're REALLY tired of being angry!

After another big blow-out with my significant-other, I went on line and bought this book. WOW! What an eye opener! It may me realize that I CAN control my thoughts and explosive behavior, and gave me the tools to do it. I even loaned the book to my son's girlfriend after they had a fight, and she's telling all of her friends about it. If you find yourself constantly fighting with your mate over the same things, then this is the book for you, but only if you're willing to do some serious soul searching, and if you're willing to make a change (for the better).

Red-Hot Relationships

Psychologists Lorel Lindstrom and Shari Kirkland say that "relationship problems between lovers is the number one complaint in psychological clinics throughout the country." Their book, Red Hot Relationships: How to Defuse the Anger and Keep the Romance, is a primer for couples who want to overcome destructive anger and enhance their relationships. Drs. Lindstrom and Kirkland say their goal "is to help both of you become your own therapist, to fix your emotional swings when you're upset." They say that fixing yourself is the first step in learning to fix a relationship. They add that "your thoughts and beliefs are the cause of your feelings, good or bad, and they control your behavior." The first chapters of their book are devoted to defining what anger is and describing some ways in which it manifests itself. The authors maintain that many of the problems in relationships are symptoms of anger that hasn't been properly dealt with. They discuss the role of anger in emotions such as impatience, demanding behavior, and possessiveness. Passive aggression, substance abuse, and excessive control are also defined as some of the ways in which hidden anger is expressed. The next section teachs readers how to recognize and manage anger using a five-step plan. The final chapters discuss what makes good relationships, and includes information on realistic expectations, communication, and trust. The authors also explain how to express anger in healthy ways. Each chapter in Red Hot Relationships includes exercises for couples that will help strengthen the relationship. The book is not intended for relationships in which there are serious problems such as psychiatric disorders or physical abuse.

Easy to read and understand. I GOT IT!

I found so many useful examples, things that have happened to me. Everytime I pick it up I highlight something else. The most important thing I learned is that I can control my anger by the way I think. I have been my own worst enemy, setting things up to fail through expectations and demands. This book just clears the fog so you can see what you are doing and then chose to do it differently.

* * * * * Life Changing Book * * * * *

I wish I had found this book sooner because by the time I was able to read it I had already lost the most graceous, beautiful and loving woman in my life. If you have an anger problem this book WILL help train you to recognize irrational thought patterns which engage the anger we have. Please don't wait until it is too late, and stop denying that you may have an anger problem. If your reading this, you either have a problem or you know someone that does. It's an eye opening book and if you are like me it was a little hard to accept but once I started reading the thoughts and emotions mentioned in the book and could relate to them I knew I needed help. Take charge of your anger and change your relationships before your anger drives away the ones you love.