Customer Reviews of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World
PARENTS OF THE WORLD, READ THIS BOOK.
I am in my 20's, and a graduate of an Ivy League college. I state this fact hoping to give some validity to my opinion. I read this book when I was 20, and I cried at least twice during each chapter of "Queen Bees". Although in high school I hung with a non-conformist/alternative crowd, we were not immune to the petty fights and backstabbing that Wiseman attributes to typical teenage girl behavior. No matter how independent your daughter, she will be either the victim or perpetrator of such behavior. I know,this may shock you...but even your well-behaved, beautiful, intelligent, honor student is very mean, and she has (or will) engage in the cruel and vicious behavior Wiseman discusses in her book. It's NOT because you're bad parents, but as Wiseman says in her book, it's kill or be killed out there in "girl world". It's hard to imagine how cruel teenage girls can be, but there is no exaggeration in this book, I promise you. Even if all your daughter's friends seem lovely and mature, there is still a power struggle within the group, and your daughter may be stuck in the middle.
Please understand that this book IS what life is like for your teenage daughters. She is not the exception. Wiseman outlines various personality types of teenage girls, and even if your daughter is the diplomatic, friendly, and generous type, not all those around her are the same. You need to understand the world she lives in to understand anything about her. I wish my parents had read this book. Though they did a great job raising me, they could have saved all of us the emotional turmoil of those years.
Every mother and/or father of a preteen/teenage girl or boy should read this book. Not only to identify your child but to get a better understanding of who his/her friends/peers are and how their actions affect your child. There are several useful tools provided to help you communicate better with your child and tips on what language you should not use when talking to your son or daughter. There are also chapters in this book that should be shared with your child. A great book!
If you have a daughter, get this book!
I started reading this book and my only thought was, "holy crap, this kind of stuff cannot really be happening in middle school!" But I sat down my 14-year-old daughter, and sure enough, this book is right on. Which is scary. If you thought middle school was bad before, you can't believe it now.
This book is rather terrifying. But unlike a lot of parenting books (especially those that are more like studies of all the things that are going wrong with kids nowadays), this book has tons of practical help. There are great ideas to help your daughter navigate the shark-infested waters of teenager-hood. (I wish I'd had this book a few years ago when we were enduring a particularly nasty fifth grade year.)
This book will definitely help me to help my three daughters survive and thrive during their pre-teen and teenage years. I have recommended it to everyone I know with daughters. If you buy one book this year, make it this one!
Every Parent Needs a Copy!
Rosalind Wiseman is a wealth of helpful information. I love her approach - it's more than being nice, it's about social competence. She takes a serious, tough topic and belts out practical tips you can really use to help your children deal with the struggles they are bound to encounter at one time or another during their adolescence. Queen Bees and Wannabes makes me want to read ALL of her books. A must read for all parents of both boys and girls. From vickyandjencom
Fabulous book & lead to a great GSA Meeting
My wife read this book and found it to be amazing. She used the book as the basis for what she thought was the best meeting she has ever had with her GSA troop.