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Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence
Release Date: March, 2003
Publisher: Three Rivers Press
Over 400,000 copies sold. Revised and upsated version of the New York Times Bestseller. When Rosalind Wiseman first published Queen Bees & Wannabes, she fundamentally changed the way adults look at girls' friendships and conflicts-from how they choose their best friends, how they express their anger, their boundaries with boys, and their relationships with parents. Wiseman showed how girls of every background are profoundly influenced by their interactions with one another. Now, Wiseman has revised and updated her groundbreaking book for a new generation of girls and explores: How girls' experiences before adolescence impact their teen years, future relationships, and overall success. The different roles girls play in and outside of cliques as Queen Bees, Targets, and Bystanders, and how this defines how they and others are treated. Girls' power plays-from fake apologies to fights over IM and text messages. Where boys fit into the equation of girl conflicts and how you can help your daughter better hold her own with the opposite sex. Checking your baggage-recognizing how your experiences impact the way you parent, and how to be sanely involved in your daughter's difficult, yet common social conflicts. Packed with insights about technology's impact on Girl World and enlivened with the experiences of girls, boys, and parents, the book that inspired the hit movie "Mean Girls" offers concrete strategies to help you empower your daughter to be socially competent and treat herself with dignity. Paperback: 448 pages. Publisher: Three Rivers Press; 2 Original edition (October 13, 2009). Size: 8" x 5-1/4"
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PARENTS OF THE WORLD, READ THIS BOOK.
Posted by Girl Friday on 12/13/2005
I am in my 20's, and a graduate of an Ivy League college. I state this fact hoping to give some validity to my opinion. I read this book when I was 20, and I cried at least twice during each chapter of "Queen Bees". Although in high school I hung with a non-conformist/alternative crowd, we were not immune to the petty fights and backstabbing that Wiseman attributes to typical teenage girl behavior. No matter how independent your daughter, she will be either the victim or perpetrator of such behavior. I know,this may shock you...but even your well-behaved, beautiful, intelligent, honor student is very mean, and she has (or will) engage in the cruel and vicious behavior Wiseman discusses in her book. It's NOT because you're bad parents, but as Wiseman says in her book, it's kill or be killed out there in "girl world". It's hard to imagine how cruel teenage girls can be, but there is no exaggeration in this book, I promise you. Even if all your daughter's friends seem lovely and mature, there is still a power struggle within the group, and your daughter may be stuck in the middle.
Please understand that this book IS what life is like for your teenage daughters. She is not the exception. Wiseman outlines various personality types of teenage girls, and even if your daughter is the diplomatic, friendly, and generous type, not all those around her are the same. You need to understand the world she lives in to understand anything about her. I wish my parents had read this book. Though they did a great job raising me, they could have saved all of us the emotional turmoil of those years.
Posted by Stacey Nicolai on 8/26/2007
Every mother and/or father of a preteen/teenage girl or boy should read this book. Not only to identify your child but to get a better understanding of who his/her friends/peers are and how their actions affect your child. There are several useful tools provided to help you communicate better with your child and tips on what language you should not use when talking to your son or daughter. There are also chapters in this book that should be shared with your child. A great book!