Old Friend from Far Away: The Practice of Writing Memoir

by Natalie Goldberg

Book Overview

"Memoir writers, buy this book, put it on your personal altar, or carry it with you as you traverse the deep ruts of your old road." --Tom Spanbauer, author of The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon Old Friend from Far Away teaches writers how to tap into their unique memories to tell their story. Twenty years ago Natalie Goldberg's classic, Writing Down the Bones, broke new ground in its approach to writing as a practice. Now, Old Friend from Far...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1416535039
• ISBN13: 9781416535034
• Release Date: March 2009
• Publisher: Atria Books
• Length: 336 Pages
• Weight: 0.68 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.4" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

Natalie Goldberg is always entertaining, even while being instructional/

I wrote an essay just after reading the first few pages, with the starter "I remember . . ." If you want to write memoir, this book will provide the prods.

"What you fear, if you turn toward it, will give your writing teeth"

This morning at 4:30 I turned on the light to read a few more pages of Old Friend From Far Away. I skipped toward the end and read about how at a celebration for the twentieth anniversary of Natalie's first book, a woman who took her writing class when she was a young student at an alternative school, stood up to speak. The woman told her story of how one Monday Natalie brought in a bushel of rich red apples she'd picked the day before at an orchard near the school. This was a family orchard where a month before the oldest son had been killed in a bizarre gun accident. The woman revealed that this young man had been her first love. When I got to the part where the woman explained how Natalie's writing class gave her an avenue for expressing her suffering and grief, I found myself sobbing (in a good way) with recognition of the truth of her words. After the woman finishes telling her story Natalie writes: "It's a holy thing to be a writer. It is why you want to write your memoir: to remember all of it. The good and the bad. To trust your experience, to have confidence that your moments and the moments of others on this earth mattered... It is a great thing you are doing whatever it is you are remembering. You are saying that life--and its passing--have true value." I hesitated to buy Old Friend From Far Away since I already have Natalie Goldberg's other enormously helpful writing books. But all the praise from other writers is well-deserved. Every page makes me want to click my heels with delight--even the pages that make me cry. I wholeheartedly recommend this book! --Suza Francina, author, The New Yoga for People Over 50 and other books for people at midlife and older.

A Juicy Treat

In Natalie Goldberg's new book, Old Friend from Far Away, the theme is in its subtitle: The Practice of Writing Memoir. Best known for her seminal book, Writing Down the Bones, Goldberg once again preaches the dogma of PRACTICE... Ten minutes of freehand writing on any topic. Just get it down. This is not a book about how to put together a memoir, what topics to write about, or how to publish. Plenty of other memoir-writing books cover those topics. Goldberg is 100% cheerleader--reminding us over and over to "Shut Up and Write" because what we have to say is fleeting and so important. There are no great answers for who we are; don't wait for them. Pick up the pen and right now, in ten furious minutes, tell the story of your life. I'm not kidding. Ten minutes of continuous writing is much more expedient than ten years of musing and getting nowhere. Natalie Goldberg is first and foremost a poet, so you can expect the pages to drip with delicious imagery. She is particularly adept at food analogies: "Memoir gives you the ability to plop down like the puddle that forms and spreads from the shattering of a glass of milk on the kitchen floor." "You crack open sentences, like egg shells letting the bright yellow, the clear white, in all its unorderliness, fall out." The author advises us to jump in wherever we like; this is not a book to be read from front to back. In fact, she wants us to WRITE our way through the pages in whatever order we desire. And because life is not linear, you want to approach writing memoir sideways, using the deepest kind of thinking to sort through the layers. You want reflection to discover what the real connections are. If you want to dive in and find exactly the inspiration you need, she provides advice in an index of phrases--a great place to start. "Go for the jugular." "Don't try to make it pretty." "Trust your insides to lead you." If you want to read some great memoirs, Goldberg provides a list of her favorites (and some of mine), including: Anne Lamott, Mary Karr, Maxine Hong Kingston. She features an eclectic mix of memoirists within her text from James Baldwin and Zora Neale Hurston to Bob Dylan and Allen Ginsburg. If you are already an old friend of Goldberg, you will find comfort in her newest tome. If you are new to her work, you are in for a juicy treat. by Karen Ryan for Story Circle Book Reviews reviewing books by, for, and about women

So Grateful for My "Old Friend"

I read this book through once, without doing any of the exercises, and I felt as if I was sitting across the table from my old friend, Natalie. I felt like we were drinking tea and chatting over tasty cookies and not worrying about the clock.... I was wearing my favorite comfy-yet-stylish sweat clothes... I am not sure what she is wearing but I do know she looks stunningly beautiful. Then I started again, reading... and working through the exercises. I am a life-writer so I write many essays that involve memoir type writing. I wasn't so pleased with Natalie - yet I was deeply pleased to write with Natalie... one of my earliest writings from the book I entitled, "Natalie Goldberg goes for the jugular" because the places I went from her prompting were places I would not have chosen to go on my own. Her simple prompt on page 14 was: "Tell me what you will miss when you die." This has been a tough year. I didn't WANT to go there yet I wanted, so much, to go there. Most recently, I had an "a-ha" that was 18 years in the making, thanks to Natalie's simple prompt. Her prompting is so simple, yet so compelling - like on page 240: "even though you are keeping a list, for the heck of it: do ten minutes right now. All the times you remember saying good-bye. Go. Ten minutes." like on page 282: You gave your mind a lot of galloping room. Now you need to pick up the reins and direct it to trot down a path, your path. You can't take the whole wheat field with you but you can canter through it and say you were here. Go ahead. You grew the wheat, now cut it down, make your own shadow line through the yellow stalks. Don't worry. The wheat is golden, waiting for this moment." I read a review that said there wasn't enough "how-to" within these pages... not enough "technical stuff" on memoir writing. There isn't much technical and yet there is so much guidance beyond the technical... and I suppose there is a message there in writing your memoir. It isn't about the technical. There are some pages which are only the prompt, not any additional verbage. (The "What will you miss" prompt is the only thing on the page. What does that do for the reader/writer? Well, for me it opened up soooo much. I might have lost it if it were words among other verbage. Can you tell I am a huge fan? I have to admit I wasn't so enamored with Natalie's last book (The Great Failure)... the review I wrote of that one was almost painful for me to write yet I understand, now, more of her reason for writing it and presenting it exactly as she did. I have recommended this book to so many people, I have lost track. It only seems fitting to recommend it to readers on this page, as well. My life is better because of Natalie Goldberg's presence at the page. My life is better because I have read (and worked through) Old Friend from Far Away.... I am grateful.

An ache, a longing

What I love about Natalie Goldberg's latest is how the book grows, how it swells, how it starts with small, private memories and joins these to the larger world. "The reason we want to write memoir," she says, "is an ache, a longing, a passing of time that we feel all too strongly." The longing calls up stories, calls up details, which are the anchor of any memoir. The details are vital, "but detail devoid of feeling is a marble rolling across a hard wood floor." Memoir, says Goldberg, "is taking personal experience and turning it inside out. We surrender our most precious understanding, so others can feel what we felt and be enlarged." Our feelings connect us not just to the past, but to the rest of the sentient world, even the political world. We may lead a lucky life compared to others around the globe. We may write about a red wagon or "the slow spring we remember in Ohio, while at the same time atrocities, torture, genocide are happening. It's not wrong that our life has been graced, but it's important to acknowledge that while a rose blooms a bomb is being dropped." Much of Goldberg's advice on writing we have read before, in her earlier books. But her suggestions here for putting the mind and heart in gear, as we put pen to paper, are perfectly fresh. More and more of us want to uncover and write down our own stories, and Old Friend from Far Away will be welcomed by anyone struggling to set down the sweet or painful pressure of her life, the past as it flows into the present. The book is filled with inventive observations, and with Natalie Goldberg's infectious belief in writing practice. "Stay connected to the power," she says, "the pleasure of writing. Come back to that over and over." A lovely and trenchant book.