Love Is a Story: A New Theory of Relationships

by Robert J. Sternberg

Book Overview

In this groundbreaking work, Robert Sternberg opens the book of love and shows you how to discover your own story--and how to read your relationships in a whole new light. What draws us so strongly to... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0195131029
• Release Date: June 1999
• Publisher: Oxford University Press
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.85 lbs.
• Dimensions: 6.1" x 0.7" x 9.3"

Customer Reviews

Finally a Story Written Just For You

I have recommended this book and given it as presents to people with broken and/or problematic relationships, and to young people considering new relationships. "Love is a Story" provides a different perspective to understanding relationships without accusations and remorse. The book allows one to review past and current relationships calmly and dispassionately. However, unfortunately, most people prefer ego trips, finding scapegoats and blaming a partner. If you have already made your final analysis of your partner and your relationship, this book will probably not convince you that the situation is also part of your making and that there is a high possibility that your next relationship may follow a similar pattern. But, if you are able to view objectively, the book will give you the means of analysing your part, your partner's part and the resulting story of the relationship, so that you may discuss things with your partner on the same basis and not fall into further traps. I recommend the book strongly to psychologists, psychiatrists (not psychoanalysts)and people who are into new relationships (and have some doubts,) as well as amateur and professional life-coaches. You may find it fun to read and discuss with your partner even if you have a terrific relationship. It may give you a good feeling to be able to say, "This is our Story, isn't it wonderful!"

Love is a Story

This book is awesome! I would recommend it to anyone. And the shipping speed was very fast as well.

Now I get it!

I love this book. It isn't THE answer but it fills in an essential part of the equation that we call "relationship." Sternberg gave me a great deal to think about and a new perspective on my own relationships.

Excellent for psychotherapists and clients alike

As a Psychologist,I've been using this book with many of my clients. It is great for getting people to consider their own part in ongoing relationship problems (i.e. figuring out their own love story), as well as for helping people assess their partner's role in the problems (i.e. assessing their partner's love story). I am getting excellent feedback for my clients regarding the book's helpfulness.

Haunting analysis of why we fall in love

If you ever question why we fall in love, why we choose our romantic partners, why we stay in relationships, the author has answers that will shock and haunt you -- or at least that was what I found upon reading this book. And it all made sense, especially in the weeks after reading it, when I considered and reconsidered all that was said. Every possible love relationship is studied, and every possible explanation emerges. You will understand yourself more and understand others as well. Just fascinating, and as you practice what the author has preached, you'll start to discover that he is right.