Happily Remarried

by David Frisbie

Book Overview

Nearly 60 percent of remarriages end in divorce. What can people do to beat the odds? The authors point to four key strategies to help bring long-term unity: forgive everyone, including yourself;... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0736915303
• ISBN13: 9780736915304
• Release Date: August 2005
• Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
• Length: 237 Pages
• Weight: 0.60 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.6" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Maybe I'm Not The Worst Stepmom

This book showed me why my new husband's kids haven't let me help them the way I want to help them. I've been trying too hard, and it isn't working. I've also had to be the one to enforce the rules sometimes, and that isn't working either. Now I know why! I wish I had read this book before I got married again, but at least I'm reading it now. I'm learning how to be a better mom to my own kids, and hopefully a better person around my stepkids.

Every Remarried Couple Should Read This Book

I'm a busy stepmom and recently remarried woman. "Happily Remarried" is so honest, so accurate, such a hope-filled look at blending a family. This is the best advice about parenting stepkids that I've ever seen! Every remarried couple should read this book.

The Best Gift We Got For Our Remarriage!

Friends gave us this book when Brad and I got married: a second marriage for both of us. We started reading it right away --- it is the most helpful book I've read about parenting your stepkids! We shared the book, back and forth, until we both finished it. Now I'm reading it again --- and I'm still learning. Any couple considering a second marriage --- or already in one --- should read this book!

Really Useful and Down-To-Earth!

This book is the most helpful thing I've read about getting remarried or being remarried! We just got married in September, and a friend gave me this book as a wedding present. Thank you, Janie! Such practical, down-to-earth advice. I've already used three ideas from the book --- in the parenting section --- and it's helping me with my new husband's kids. I had read two or three other books before getting remarried, but those books weren't as clear, direct, and easy-to-read as this one! I would highly recommend this book to ANY stepfamily or remarried couple.

Practical and inspirational counsel for people considering remarriage

With nearly sixty percent of remarriages ending in divorce, it seems unlikely that any textual discussion on this tread-lightly topic could be deemed as positive. Yet authors David and Lisa Frisbie accomplish this unlikely task most successfully. Given that about 90 million people in the United States are now living in a stepfamily, divorce and remarriage are no longer "fringe" societal patterns. Divorce, even within the church, is a reality that must be reckoned with and faced head on. Surprisingly, those couples entering a second (or third, or fourth) marriage frequently exhibit some measure of extra-forgiveness than they did during their first marriages. The authors cite that with first marriages the high emotional component of physical attractiveness and romantic feelings often play an inordinate role in the formation of the relationship, whereas in the subsequent marriages both partners appear to be more rationally based when deciding to remarry. The deeper attraction is rooted in similarity of political and religious views, life experiences, and compatible personality types. It is on this basis that the authors say a remarriage can thrive despite the high divorce statistics. Forgiveness of those who have hurt individuals in the past sets the new partners free of unwanted baggage often evidenced by anger, resentment and bitterness. Learning to forgive in the present, as couples adjust to differences in attitudes and values, also offers a sense of safety and shelter so necessary in a loving relationship. Further, embracing an attitude of personal forgiveness for past mistakes is essential. Accepting God's pardon completely allows each partner to look to the future with a solid hope instead of wallowing in regret over past errors. The authors expound at length upon four foundation principles that are essential to a successful remarriage relationship. They recommend that both partners form a spiritual connection based on serving God together, determine to view their marriage as permanent and irreversible, embrace blanket forgiveness as cited above, and understand that conflict can bring about a deeper, more substantial relational bond. While this text is soundly inspirational, it is also practical. Readers will glean countless tidbits of insight as they read about numerous other couples who've been there, done that, with resistant stepchildren, conflicting modes of discipline, blending within a new family home, creating memorable traditions, and overcoming financial stresses. Perhaps one of the most helpful chapters covers the hot topic of the "X" factor, or, in other words, "strategies for dealing with your former spouse." The authors remind the remarried that frequently well-behaved ex-spouses become jealous and angry when a former spouse gets married. These volatile emotions can play out in middle-school immature acts of purposefully withholding child support, being repeatedly late for picking up children, and becoming argumentative and