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ISBN: 0062107704

ISBN13: 9780062107701

Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion

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Verbal Judo is the martial art of the mind and mouth that can show you how to be better prepared in every verbal encounter. Listen and speak more effectively, engage people through empathy (the most powerful word in the English language), avoid the most common conversational disasters, and use proven strategies that allow you to successfully communicate your point of view and take the upper hand in most disputes.Verbal Judo offers a creative look...

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Use Their Energy

Like many books, I first came upon this book, because it was referenced in an article. And I have since read this book many times. Just saying verbal judo to others gets a laugh. However, this is a very serious and valuable book. Have you ever walked away from someone, telling yourself, "Next time ... I am going to be prepared. Next time, he or she will not get me. I will be ready?" What mastering verbal judo takes is for you to be fully in the moment, conscious of who you are, and not only conscious of what you are experiencing, in the presence of your interlocutor, but also willing to to use your interlocutor's energy to redirect what they expressed to you from something destructive to something mutually empowering. I have taught myself to smile, on the inside, and to even, ever so slightly nod, when someone has insulted me. This is my anchor, if you will, to breath my way to using their insult to defuse what just happened. Here's an example, "Calm Down!" My Verbal Judo response: (said in a calm, relaxed demeanor) "I am as calm as I know how to be, right now. And with your help, I can be more calm. Are you ready?" This response is an acknowledgement of your interlocutor, and it is a declaration of your self-respect. This is teaching your interlocutor how to treat you well. Another example is, "You think too much!" My Verbal Judo Response is, "Yes. I do think a great deal. And I thank you for your disguise compliment, because thinking for myself is so important to me." My response told this person that I value who I am, and that I appreciate his or her awareness of what matters to me. Over the years, because I use life as a human lab, I have created several real life examples of how to respond, instead of reacting to manipulative people, or as Scott Peck would call, "evil people." An additional tool in my being able to do this was when I read John Bradshaw's, "Healing the Shame That Binds You." I learned what stops a person from being able to master verbal judo, in the present moment, really is fear (false, education, appearing real). And when you realize that your conscious mind is telling your subconscious mind what to do, you are free to tell your conscious mind that although you have just been attacked, this is your opportunity to teach this person to take their self-hate somewhere else. Read this book as a tool to get more out of your life. The authors are humorous, wise and compassionate. And the book is so easy to follow that you will be compelled to master the lessons.

Practical & Highly Memorable

With such a unique background, any stories he'd tell would be interesting. However these practical demonstrations are so memorable, I found myself immediately and naturally applying them in my own life. I've recently read a number of "communication" books because I've been feeling that I could do better in this area. This is the book I'm passing on to my teenage sons. Dr. Thompson's many examples, coming from all angles of life, are the treasure. I don't expect to encounter the heavy situations he handled in his police work, but he's correct: if his methods of staying in control work there, they'll work anywhere. My one and only caveat is that in order to understand and apply Dr. Thompson's methods, one must possess a certain amount of emotional maturity to begin with. Reading this book will not turn a social moron into a diplomat, at least not until he's worked on his personal issues. But for those of us who interact well most of the time, and occasionally have situations blow up in our faces without understanding why, this is a perfect book.

A "Must Read" for anyone who deals with "difficult people."

I read most of "Doc Rhino's" book at the airport and on the plane while returning from being trained as a Verbal Judo instructor. This is absolutely the best work on handling "difficult people." Whether it's an irate customer, a moody adolescent, or an arrestee with a nasty attitude, Dr. Thompson's teaching gives you the tools and knowledge to win every time, and look and sound good doing it.

Verbal Judo

Dr. Thompson has supplied us with an extremely valuable tool by which we can learn to communicate in a manner that maintains professionalism and obtains outcomes that are advantageous to everyone involved. His use of examples is good; however, more examples that are other than police related would make the techniques easier to apply when first beginning to use Verbal Judo. Because everyone of us must use verbal communications to get through life, and can expect confict as a natural part of life, I highly recommend the book.

Good stuff for difficult people.

I have had the good fortune to go through the Verbal Judo training that Dr. Thompson provides for police officers. I also have the good fortune to work with a lot of very good people who are, or who are aspiring to become, teachers. Dr. Thompson's use of clear and specific language combined with his breadth of experience have resulted in a book that I recommend most highly to teachers, school administrators and anyone who would like to improve their ability to deal with people more effectively. I can certainly see why the wimps that Dr. Thompson describes wouldn't like what he has to say!Ron Pendleton, Ph.D., Professor of Education & Reserve Deputy Sheriff
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