The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family: A Leadership Fable... about Restoring Sanity to the Most Important Organization in Your Life

by Patrick Lencioni

Book Overview

A singularly relevant application of organizational leadership to the home and family

In this unique and groundbreaking book, business consultant and New York Times best-selling author Patrick Lencioni sets his sights on the most important organization in our lives--the family.

As a husband and as the father of four young boys, Lencioni realized the discrepancy between the time and energy his clients put into running their...

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0787995320
• ISBN13: 9780787995324
• Release Date: September 2008
• Publisher: Jossey-Bass
• Length: 240 Pages
• Weight: 0.84 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 6.7" x 8.6"

Customer Reviews

Waiting Until Your Family Implodes?

In "The Three Big Questions for a Frantic Family," fabled Pat Lencioni offers us a fable focusing on the most important organization in life, our family. Motivated by his own experience and observation of his contemporaries, Lencioni concludes today's parents are stressed out and overwhelmed because they operate by the seat of their pants. The long term costs are real but go unappreciated until the family implodes. Unfocused day to day living increases rates of depression, substance abuse, and psychological illness leading to serious dysfunctions and divorce. Lencioni offers a prescription for restoring sanity and ensuring more purposeful, less frantic lives. It centers on three key questions: 1. What makes your family unique? 2. What is your family's top priority - rallying cry - right now? 3. How will you use the answers? And how will you keep the answers alive? The fundamental principal applied by Lencioni is context. Once a family knows the context in which it operates, they will have an agreed-upon guide for family decision-making. My wife, who read this in one sitting, loved the book as well. She noted that Lencioni's model provides couples with an exellent methodology for dialogue on child rearing and day-to-day living. "The model leads to consistency on decisions and a way to judge a couple's response to unplanned events. Most importantly, it will knit couples closer together as it leads to better coordination and mutual support." This is an excellent book for all families. Prior to the publication of "The Three Big Questions for a Frantic Family," Lencioni tested his prescription and provides outcomes from a number of families who tried the medicine. He notes every family plan will be different and will not alleviate all stress, as some chaos is inevitable. I read "The Three Big Questions for a Frantic Family" with my children's families in mind only to discover that Lencioni's sage advice is hard to ignore for any couple, regardless of age.

A breath of fresh air for the family!

My wife and I have really grown with the simple steps outlined in The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family. Our 7 year old is totally involved as well. I'm a successful business professional, and have always been experiencing mixed feelings during personal life because of the chaos. At the times our family is disappointed when things aren't living up to our idea of the "perfect day," or month, or year, I have many feelings including: - Sadness the family is disappointed - seeing the long faces of my wife and kids. I want us to be happy. - Hopeful since I wait for my family to "finally" realize a little bit of team communication can go a long way to producing the results we want. - Openly excited that maybe there will be some family buy-in to my desires to focus on teamwork now that we, once again, feel the pain of "what we are doing is not working" - so how about a change in how we do things around the home? Patrick Lencioni's book has changed that! I read the book first, being a huge fan of all of Lencioni's books. By reading excepts to my lovely spouse, she became interested enough to read the book herself. Soon my wife was saying, "that's me! that's us!" and she read the book as fast as she would read her People magazine! We are actively participating in the three steps as a family and the results are amazing. Short meetings, once a week, limited to 10 minutes, and our family is so much happier and functional than ever before. This is a wonderful book for any family. Lots of books have "the right stuff" for families, and what sets The 3 Big Questions apart from other books in my mind is that the story of the fable format will appeal to people who ordinarily wouldn't read a book like this. I hope to some day meet Mr. Lencioni and thank him in person. Our family life has gone to a whole new level around here!

Change Your (family) Life

Reactive? Scattered? Frantic? Chaotic? Stressed? When I read Verne Harnish's recommendation of this book, I knew I had to read it. Verne's book "Mastering the Rockefeller Habits" on how to tame the chaos of a fast growing company has helped our business immensely. I even applied what I learned about running our company to my family--with good results. I don't know if Verne had that objective in mind, but it just made sense that if we clarified our values, purpose, and goals as a family, we should all be able to move in the same direction, just like we strive to do every day at work. The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family specifically takes business health principles and applies them to the family. Very few families think of themselves as an organization that should strategically and systematically pursue improvement. But they should! We have 5 kids, ages 2 to 16, with a lot of activities in and out of the home. Do we have chaos? Absolutely. Can we tame the madness and live in peace and alignment in purpose? Patrick Lencioni says "yes," and the plan is far more simple than you might think. Simple? Really? Can a business consultant and writer really make these concepts accessible to an average dad or mom who doesn't define and implement strategy at work? Yes. How? First, by telling how it's done in fable form from the perspective of a stay at home mom. And second, Theresa not only learns how to tame the chaos and bring sanity back, but she teaches the method to her friends, which gives us several examples of what it looks like in different families with various problems. Theresa and her husband Jude answer the 3 big questions: 1. What makes your family unique? 2. What is your family's top priority? 3. How do you talk about and use the answers to these questions? Theresa and Jude learn how to answer these questions and then apply the answers to their lives. Sanity and quality return to their family. They learn that "running a family, though difficult, should not be complicated. Like most things in life--marriage, parenting, leadership, physical fitness, financial stability--it comes down to mastering a handful of simple concepts, which requires more persistence and dedication than it does intelligence." Now it's time for us to answer the 3 big questions, apply the answers in the context of our situation, and to achieve the clarity that will help us live our family life to the fullest.

"Family Leadership Made Simple"

Everyone I know struggles to maintain a balanced family life. Why is it such a challenge? One of the most common reasons is that we lack simple, practical tools that help us to articulate our priorities and to revisit them consistently so that they become a guiding force in daily decision-making. This is exactly the need that Pat and his team at The Table Group have addressed. With their typical flair for making complex ideas accessible for all of us (this book could be sub titled "Family Leadership for Dummies"), they have developed a user-friendly method that will help us close that gap between who we want to be and how we actually navigate family life. And especially for those of you who may feel overwhelmed with the problem, read this book. Change is not as far away as you may think!

Great BOOK!!!

First I will admit that I am a fan of Lencioni's previous titles. The author's style of writing is to teach trough a story of characters that you can identify with. The sub-title of the book is "A Leadership Fable". This is not a book that proposes a lesson through theory but through application. I found myself able to identify with the characters in the story from the first page all the way through the entire book. I completed the book in three hours because I could not stop reading once I picked it up. If you find yourself asking when does the chaos end between work, home, personal life then the 3 Big Question approach may just a tool that can get you pointed in the right direction. Is it earth shaking knowledge? No, but rarely are most practical approaches to dealing with business or family. Is the approach by the author a silver bullet. No! But I believe the concept is simple enough and profound enough for almost any family that it will at least bring the family to the table to start discussing what is important and what is the priority for your family. It's a great book. I would recommend for anyone no matter if you are a single, couple, family with small children or those who have no children at home. If I could I would give everyone a copy. It's that good.