Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Book Overview

Too many of us have invested ourselves into relationships that left us deeply wounded. We've been abandoned or taken advantage of, and left with little to show for what we've given. We've lost our sense of security and personal value in the process. And what's worse, we tend to either repeat the same mistakes of judgment over and over . . . Or else lock the doors of our hearts entirely and throw away the key. Why do we choose the wrong people to get...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0310210844
• ISBN13: 9780310210849
• Release Date: November 1996
• Publisher: Zondervan
• Length: 208 Pages
• Weight: 0.40 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.4" x 8.0"
• Age Range: 18 years and up

Customer Reviews

Life changing book.

This book opened my eyes to relationships that I thought were safe but weren't.

Great book.

I have made the mistake of trusting the wrong people and been too kind, empathetic and giving. I had to stop assuming everyone was a good person. This book has helped me start to navigate and figure out who I can trust. I recommend this book and would read it again.

A well written and useful book

As a recent widower, the grief process has been a sad and lonely road as so-called friends disappeared. While it technically does not specifically deal with grief, the lessons learned in this book are very useful in connecting with supportive people.

Excellent Book!

While this is a Christian based book, complete with helpful scriptural references, it is also a relationship book that can be very, very helpful for any relationship. This is coming from someone who had never read a relationship/dating book before. I learned a lot about myself, and my relationships. I believe that most people who read this will have the lightbulbs going off when they read about certain relationship qualities, and will be able to pinpoint certain people in their lives who fit the particular mold. It teaches you how to look for better relationships (whether friends, family or otherwise) and be a better person yourself. I have picked up Boundaries, and a couple other books from these authors, and am looking forward to getting time to read them.

Who can you trust these days?

That's what this book is all about. The book describes character traits and personalities to run from and to open up to. As I read through it though, I kept seeing myself. It was getting a little depressing to have my unhealthy character traits revealed. The good news is it doesn't just point fingers, it pointed me down a path of recovery and I'm now focusing on developing my integrity and good character.

Life Changing!!!

This is a book everyone should read. It can be life changing if while you are reading it you ask yourself, "am I a safe person?" It takes you through the characteristics of an unsafe person, a safe person, how to become a safe person, and then what to do with unsafe relationships you already have. You need to look at safe people from both sides - are your friends safe, and are you safe?

Safe People

The book is outstanding! It explains step by step how to recognize unsafe tendencies in others and in ourselves. I have learned so much so that I was able to pick a new job,better church atmosphere,and new friends. I went from a level 2 on the happiness scale to a level 9 in about 6-7 mos. I thank God for practical, dedicated authors like Dr Cloud and Dr Townsend.

This book will change your life.

This book is full of life-changing material. It teaches you about discernment and how to break the cycle of bad relationships. Since it is based on Biblical principles, it gives you a framework on which to build relationships. I read it along with the workbook as part of a Bible study a couple of years ago and it made a tremendous impact on my life. I recommend this book to anyone I meet who is having any kind of relationship problem - either with their friends or their family. It is excellent!