Not Tonight, Mr. Right: The Best (Don't Get) Laid Plans for Finding and Marrying the Man of Your Dreams

by Kate Taylor

Book Overview

With the same saucy, tell-it-like-it-is appeal of He's Just Not That Into You, sex author Kate Taylor explains reasons to keep your clothes on in laugh-out-loud detail: how Oxytocin -- the Fatal Attraction hormone -- can make women up to ten times more emotionally attached after sex than men; why men never expect to get lucky on the third date, or any date; that relationships are more fun, easier and longer-lasting when you keep your feet on the ground...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1600940625
• ISBN13: 9781600940620
• Release Date: September 2007
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
• Length: 208 Pages
• Weight: 0.40 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.6" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

A bold move in this day and age

First of all, this author is hilarious. If you think you're going to get a stern lecture from some nun ready to smack your knuckles if you reach out and touch someone, it's not like that at all. I was laughing out loud practically every single page. Her humor alone made this a very entertaining read. I've heard many rules about when to sleep with a man. Some say sleeping with a man on the first date is liberating. I personally think it's dangerous. This guy could be normal or he could be the next Ted Bundy. I think it's better to wait until you know him better instead of finding out the hard way. Some say they would never sleep with a man on the first date, but third date is fine. I always thought that was odd. I mean, the first date, he's a stranger, but by the third date, he's your best friend? Some say waiting a month is wise, but you're also really pushing it. Some say if you wait 3 months, he'll sleep with someone else or it's a sign he's gay. All the advice use scare tactics that say if you don't sleep with a man soon, he'll dump you. This is the first book I've read that says, let him dump you, he's doing you a favor. In this day and age of instant gratification, this author makes the bold move to suggest waiting even longer. I was impressed. This book is not trying to undo feminism. It's just saying wait 'till the time is right for you. Since men are ready to go at first glance, it's really the woman who decides the first time for sex, so she should make that decision wisely. Just because you CAN do something doesn't mean you SHOULD. There are some women who will make a man wait for sadistic reasons. She enjoys watching the man squirm. This book doesn't condone that. It's really just about having the confidence to relate to a man without using sex. This book came at the right time in my life. I was considering sleeping with a male friend of mine who I'm absolutely positive I would never want as a boyfriend, let alone a husband. I thought maybe I could have some fun and it wouldn't matter because I wouldn't have to worry about getting emotionally attached and needy. He could be my wild oat. The author convinced me it's not that easy. I probably would get attached and would be selling myself short. I also wouldn't feel proud of myself for using someone even though he would be using me, too. All in all, it just wouldn't be worth it. I gave this book 4 stars instead of 5 because some of the other advice I didn't agree with like don't talk politics with a guy, don't offer suggestions on a date, stuff like that. That's too passive for me and something I couldn't or wouldn't want to hold up for very long. If I were a guy, I think that behavior would get old fast. But other than that, a great read.

Wise words from a Sex Columnist

It's ironic that a sex columnist wrote this book. I found it extremely helpful to me in my dating world. Sex too soon never ever works. When I was a teenager and dating around, I wasn't sexually active. I had men coming out of the woodwork. I had one man drive 100 miles to see me twice a month when I was in college and I never put out! If a man is really serious about you and is just not looking for sex, he will wait until you're ready. Just don't tease him. Keep the dates chaste and end them at your front door. Once he comes in and starts sitting on the couch, anything can happen. I think romance has died because too many women have given up the candy store all at once. There is no mystery, no romance, no courtship. I really think men like to treat women well and like to bring flowers and candy. I think women have spoiled men to the point where they feel they don't have to do anything. Ladies, guard your heart. Make sure you're in a committed relationship before you undress. Let men work for you. Kate is right, no sex speeds up a relationship. Either the man gets bored as he's not getting his needs met or he steps up to the plate and makes a committment. Sex changes everything in a relationship. If a man is not interested in every marrying you, he can sleep with you and date you for years. If you're interested in having a family, you cannot waste time on lukewarm men. I don't want children but I do want to get married again so this time I'm waiting for the right one. I found this to be one of the best dating books ever. I'm going to do what Kate suggests. Multi-date and date all sorts of men, just not my so called "type". My so called type hasn't worked very well and I'm still single. Whether a man is 23 or 63, if he's a decent human being, I'll give him a chance and go out with him. Instead of rejecting men in the past I would have ignored, I will give them a chance. There are a lot of great men out there, why limit yourselves ladies? Great read. I found this book by accident at a local bookstore and immediately went online and bought it right away. I'm not going to loan it out as this is book is that important.

Every girl should read this!

This "laugh-out-loud" book should be on every girls' bookshelf, to refer to every time she starts a new relationship. In fact every teen-age girl should read it BEFORE she even starts dating ... then she'd avoid all the pit-falls and heartbreak,that we've all experienced when men have treated us badly. This book explains why women CAN'T behave like men,and remain unscathed. Our hormones won't let us! We're not designed to have casual sex with no commitment as men are. And I wish this hilariously funny book had been around in those unhappy years before I found my Mr Right!