How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved: Describes 8 Types of Dangerous Men, Gives Defense Strategies and a Red Alert Checklist for Each,

by Sandra L. Brown and M.A. Sandra L. Brown

Book Overview

What is a dangerous man? Most women would answer: one who is physically violent. But abusive behavior is often more insidious. Men who want mothers, not partners, who prey on lonely, passive women, who are mentally ill, addicted, or emotionally unavailable, or who won't go away when asked to leave all fall into this dangerous category. In this book women are encouraged to take responsibility for their own safety, are shown how to choose men wisely,...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0897934474
• ISBN13: 9780897934473
• Release Date: April 2005
• Publisher: Hunter House Publishers
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.80 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.4" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

VERY useful in groups of adults

I work with adults i group therapy, and my primary specialty areas are domestic violence and sexual assault. I've purchased several copies of this workbook, and have ALWAYS had an enthusiastic response from my clients--even the title of the book brings broad smiles. I am a male therapist, and I wanted to assure potential buyers that this book is NOT biased or snide toward males in any way. In fact, it's a very fair and honest look at men in general, and distinguishes correctly between men who use violence or control in relationships and those who do not, and how to tell the difference. The fact that this book looks at past relationship histories and how we learn from them is invaluable; I like that Sandra uses history to education, but never blames or shames the reader with any subtle hints that "it was your fault 'cause you picked him"-type scolding. Also: Sandra, I read your review of a similar book that seems to have "borrowed" your writings, and even arranged their chapters in identical order. I agree with your outrage at being stolen from, and regret that subsequent reviewers dismissed your observations without investigating, because your allegations are easily verifiable with the slightest examination.

Invaluable for spotting those you want to avoid

Sandra has provided a real service to all of us whether male or female by illustrating the signs and characteristics of those who are really dangerous to us. I have been sharing this information with others as it is very useful for anyone to have!

How to spot a dangerous man workbook

I think it is a must read if you want to brake the circle of having the same men in your life who lead to the same dead ends time after time. I lost 20 years in the dating game. This book showed me why... :-) I am able to deal with men and myself differently all together and can already see that I benefit. I was able to spot a few "dangerous" men quite quickly into getting to know them. I didn't say much, they just got lost. I was also able to walk away from potential hurt. I am happy about that. I would like to suggest though that you read the book how to spot a dangerous man first before you attempt the workshop workbook. It did help me to do some of the exercises. What I mean is I did understand where the author came from and why she asked some questions...

Very no-nonsense book, a must read

This a fantastic book. This book is written is a no-nonsense style. Sandra Brown is factual, and plain spoken when it comes to dealing with dangerous men. Dangerous men look just like normal men, but they will only drag you emotionally and mentally downward. She describes plainly the different types of abuse, and how they make you feel. She also discusses what can be a chronic problem like depression, compared to a psychopath, who will prey upon you. I like that she goes through your personal red flags, we all have them, but we often fail to recognize them. We fail to recognize red flags due to the way we were brought up. Often we have been taught how to be dsyfunctional in order to keep peace within the family unit. Sandra Brown does an excellent job of describing what red flag are, how to recognize yours, and how to learn not to ignore them. She then guides you through recogizing what works for you personally, and what does not. She teaches about boundaries, and how you can develop some of your own. This book is plainly written, and may seem a little harsh at times. If you have been in a relationship with a dangerous man, or are wondering if the man you are involved with is dangerous, this is definately worth the read. This book will aide you in determining which man you have, or what the next should be. I highly recommend this book!

Exceptionally good

Impressive, very impressive! After reading this book, I bought one for each of my two single daughters. I felt it was vital for them to read the book. It clearly exposes dangerous behaviors and spells out one's responsibilities in relationships. I particularly loved the last couple of chapters with their healthy relationships' blueprint.