Connect: 12 Vital Ties That Open Your Heart, Lengthen Your Life, and Deepen Your Soul

by Edward M. Hallowell

Book Overview

That last raise may be fattening your bank account, but it did nothing for your soul. The talk you had with your boss about your kids' schools, however, did. Although our culture is focused on... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0375403574
• ISBN13: 9780375403576
• Release Date: August 1999
• Publisher: Pantheon Books
• Length: 352 Pages
• Weight: 1.50 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.1" x 6.4" x 9.6"

Customer Reviews

treasure

As I reached the last 50 pages I found myself putting the book down, sometimes for a day or two, because I didn't want it to end. It reads easily, but the lessons are profound and the truths are palpable. I plan to give copies to my grown children to add to Man's Search for Meaning and The Art of Loving as essential texts for a well-lived life. Connect invites us to live life in the richest, most complex way...eyes open, head up,demanding of ourselves and compassionate to others. You can't read this and not grow.

There's a customer in the "Connect" message

I was first exposed to Ned Hallowell's writing and his work in the Harvard Business Review article, "The Human Moment". What struck me then and again after reading this latest work is how much of Ned's insight on relationships applies to our business lives and how we manage relationships with associates and customers. There's no question that Dr. Hallowell has hit on one of life's real opportunities -- the chance to make true connections. This book helps us to understand and appreciate the value these relationships bring to ourselves and our families. What the world of business often lacks is a sense of how relationships are the key to our success and that we need a strategy and a process to do it successfully. Ned has uncovered a very compelling message with the evidence to support it! I'll have the opportunity to hear him speak at a conference in Minneapolis next week and can't wait to have a "human moment" with the author of this masterfully written book.

Connecting is vital to a long and healthy life.

I'm fortunate--just how lucky hadn't occurred to me until I attended a graveside service for a memober of our religios community. As I looked around at the scores of people gathered there, I realized I had a personal bond with each one. In CONNECT, Hallowell affirms the necessity of connected relationships for every individual: to onself, lGod, work, others, and community to mention a few. The latest research shows that connected people live longer and have healthier lives. Ah hah! That explains why nuns age so gracefully. I'm lucky--I'm one of them and this book affirms what I've known all along--how good my connected life really is. A well written and very personal testimony to this vital ingredient--in danger of extention in this electronic age. Also great reading for a monastic!Sr Clare Community of Jesus

Among the many "self-help" books, this is one not to miss!

When one evaluates the choices in a psychology or "self help" section in a bookstore (or online), the selection is overwhelming. Without a specific recommendation from a trusted source, it is often difficult to determine which authors have real credibility. Because I have gleaned many useful ideas from four of Dr. Hallowell's earlier books, I was pleased to see another. While I found Driven to Distraction, Answers to Distraction, and Worry excellent reading, my favorite to date was an out of-print book, Finding the Heart of the Child. Connect, while having its own distinct purposes, is similar to "Finding the Heart"in that it reveals the gentle and loving "heart" of the author, who openly shares his incredible life story in a manner that enables the reader to better understand the importance of his message. In our frentic "cyber-world", it is not possible to stay adeqately connected to family, friends and institutions without really intentionality. This book offers scientific, thought provoking evidence of the value of being connected. Supporting arguments in Connect are powerful because they are based on moving real-life stories of people who have managed rich and full lives, despite challenges that might have been ruinous for them and their perspectives.

A book the world needs

As a psychologist, I have long been a fan of Dr. Edward Hallowell's best-selling books ("Driven to Distraction"; Worry"), and have recommended them to many people. One of Dr. Hallowell's gifts is his ability to connect with readers by approaching them with respect, and by writing in a warm, friendly, jargon-free style. He does it again in his latest and best book yet: "Connect." Reading "Connect" made a three hour plane ride go by as if it were three minutes. Hallowell sees "connectedness" as key to an individual's mental, social, emotional, and physical health -- and he traces many of our personal, interpersonal, and societal problems to the disconnectedness in our lives. The concept is so simple, yet so profound. Once you begin to think about it, you see how true it is. ATM's, virtual offices, and Internet shopping sever human connection; the stress-filled, hurried lives so many people lead have eroded connections with one's spouse or partner, children, extended family, and neighbors. Hallowell points out the importance of feeling connected to one's work, faith, and culture; to the past and the future; to nature and art and music. Hallowell's book includes a lot of autobiographical anecdotes, childhood remembrances, and stories about clients and other people the author knows or has read about. Far more than just a self-help book, "Connect" has the power and suspense of a novel. In a chapter that is destined to become a classic in the literature of psychiatry and psychotherapy, Hallowell writes about one of his patients, a schizophrenic with whom he first communicated by writing a line of poetry. The patient responded, and the two connected over "poem therapy." It is one of the most powerful, touching stories of two human beings connecting you will ever read. Hallowell wisely puts most of his "how-to" advice in one chapter. This not only makes his suggestions for increasing connectedness in one's life readily accessible, but frees the other chapters to be lyrical, philosophical, and moving. The construct of connectedness is one that people need to embrace if they wish to improve the quality of their lives and relationships. This book is destined to become a benchmark in the discourse of our culture.