The Princessa: Machiavelli for Women

by Harriet Rubin

Book Overview

A legacy of leadership for women only. For centuries men have used the lessons of Machiavelli's The Prince to gain and hold power. Today's women, struggling to succeed in a man's world, must learn a... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0440508320
• ISBN13: 9780440508328
• Release Date: March 1998
• Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
• Length: 208 Pages
• Weight: 0.25 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.1" x 7.6"

Customer Reviews

Getting It Done as Only a Woman Can

Power is one of those areas where writers have looked at the question from a male perspective or a unisex one that seems to be primarily male. To conceive of a book about women grasping and using power was a novel idea that quickly attracted my attention when the book first came out. I have had the pleasure of sharing this book with many women in business and later discussing the book with them. Clearly, the part of the book where Rubin argues that women should act like women in gaining and using power is very controversial with some women. The most extreme example of this point in dividing women readers I know is the advice to cry in front of men. Many women feel like this will cost them power, rather than gain them power. Others want to play the game like a man, and don't want to remind men that they are women. Other women feel that they should cry if they feel like it. Why shouldn't they? So, one of the interesting aspects of this book is that it helps the reader (female or male) to understand more about her or his assumptions about power. My experience is that coming to grips with assumptions is the essential first step to making progress, in this case towards more effective uses of power. A fascinating aspect of the book is that there are so few female historial characters for Rubin to draw on. Though each one is full of useful insights. I only wish there could have been more. An argument that Rubin makes is that many men would like women to take charge more. That makes sense to me. Why should women always hang back to see what the men want to do? Certainly, in our company the women who have done best are those who have taken charge. Unfortunately, opening the door and inviting people to step through it to set their own course is not enough for some. I encourage any woman (or man) who works with people of the opposite sex to read this book and think about its implications. Then use it as a discussion base for helping power be used more appropriately in your organization. Have a powerfully good time reading this book!

This is not a how-to book

I, too, am amazed at the differences in the reviews. I go with the "read-4-times-a-year" group. This is not a how-to book with step-by-step instructions on how to get and keep power. Perhaps that is why people are so violently opposed to it: they think Rubin is telling women to cry to get their way. I read it more like: it is okay to cry, if you have tried everything else and that has failed.I find it quite meditative and like to read a chapter here and there at night. I usually sets me off analyzing situations I have recently encountered. And I must say, many of her insights are quite helpful.I recommend this book to every woman I encounter who had just taken a step up the power ladder!

I was struck by the stark contrast of the reviews

In reading over some of the reviews of this book I was struck by the stark contrast of them. To me this is evidence of the "power" of this book. I think the women (and men) who have read this book and say they hate it are true Princes and Princessas who have no need for what is obvious to them-and are discounting this book in order to maintain their own personal "power". Good for them!The ones who love it are learning some new valuable ways of thinking from this book. Whether or not all of the historical references are correct or incorrect doesn't really matter to me. The references did interest me in finding out more about those historical figures, while her "interpretations" of them and her views on how a woman should apply Machiavelli's theories got me thinking about strategy more consciously than I had in the past. My point is, whether I agree or disagree with what she says in this book, and whether you agree or disagree, reactions are strong. This is the sign of something successful, something which is stirring emotions and inciting some actions. I am a woman who has been in business for myself for the past 8 years. I have a Master of Science in Communication. I think her points are basically good ones. Some I think are questionable, such as the crying one. I do think that crying is either a manipulative tool or a weak reaction, and not one of true power. If one does cry it has to be honest and uncontrollable crying (a weak reaction). That has happened to me in the past and I found it much more disempowering than empowering. True, I did get what I wanted in the end, but there was no sense of satisfaction in getting it that way. There was shame. It puts a fear in the person(s) witnessing the crying- of hurting that person, and a shame in the person doing the crying -that they will be thought of as weak and unbalanced. There is no true power without balance. But, I found most of her other points good ones and noticed that in my business I do apply many of them. In business I have been successful with the men I work with by using (though unconsciously to this point) many of the tactics she describes. It is still difficult for women to make it in the business world. That is a definite. I think she is right when she says that women should not try to simulate men, but use their tactics without losing ones femininity. I don't believe that many women who have reviewed this book really understand what she is trying to say. Either that, or they don't have the sex appeal to use on men (some women don't). And I don't mean flaunting ones sexuality or dressing it up or anything like that. I just mean being attractive-in a sublime way. That's enough. Therefore they are angry that it is an advantage to have. And believe me it is an advantage. And it is awful that women need to have this trait while men don't. But that is because women are trying to break through a barrier of men who do put a value on attractiveness, l

Getting It Done As Only a Woman Can

Power is one of those areas where writers have looked at the question from a male perspective or a unisex one that seems to be primarily male. To conceive of a book about women grasping and using power was a novel idea that quickly attracted my attention when the book first came out.I have had the pleasure of sharing this book with many women in business and later discussing the book with them. Clearly, the part of the book where Rubin argues that women should act like women in gaining and using power is very controversial with some women.The most extreme example of this point in dividing women readers I know is the advice to cry in front of men. Many women feel like this will cost them power, rather than gain them power. Others want to play the game like a man, and don't want to remind men that they are women. Other women feel that they should cry if they feel like it. Why shouldn't they?So, one of the interesting aspects of this book is that it helps the reader (female or male) to understand more about her or his assumptions about power. My experience is that coming to grips with assumptions is the essential first step to making progress, in this case towards more effective uses of power. A fascinating aspect of the book is that there are so few female historial characters for Rubin to draw on. Though each one is full of useful insights. I only wish there could have been more. An argument that Rubin makes is that many men would like women to take charge more. That makes sense to me. Why should women always hang back to see what the men want to do? Certainly, in our company the women who have done best are those who have taken charge. Unfortunately, opening the door and inviting people to step through it to set their own course is not enough for some. I encourage any woman (or man) who works with people of the opposite sex to read this book and think about its implications. Then use it as a discussion base for helping power be used more appropriately in your organization.Have a powerfully good time reading this book!

A very, very special book, not like anything I've ever read

I very much enjoyed reading this book and keep picking it up again and again. It lifts my spirits. I gives me the feeling that I'm right about what I believe and that deceit and hatred is not necessary to get what you want.It's about combining love and war, that they are not opposites, but complement each other, and that your allowing your emotions to be present in everything you do can actually help and not hinder you. It suggests that you can draw on your love to tap your own energy and that you can succeed by loving people, by helping them, by connecting to them, and turning enemies into allies. This book describes and explains these ideas beautifully. You still have to make them your own and see how to actually apply these concepts yourself, but I think that's the beauty of it. You succeed because you're you, with your own beliefs, strength' and weeknesses, and they all come together. What a concept!!