A Couple of Friends: The Remarkable Bond Between Gay Men and Straight Women

by Laura Rafaty and Robert H. Hopcke

In an era when men and women are supposed to be from "different planets" and unable to communicate, many gay men and straight women seem able to connect almost effortlessly. Perhaps it is because this... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1885171331
• ISBN13: 9781885171337
• Release Date: September 1999
• Publisher: Council Oak Books
• Length: 260 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.0" x 7.9"

Customer Reviews

Any true thing between two people is too normal to accept

I found this book to be healing. I was struggling with the feelings and love I had for this man I met that I knew was "Gay.From the moment we met we "just clicked" and the friendship grew . We became so close in such a short period of time. I knew I had met my "soul mate " in him and he felt the same way towards me. But a sexual undercurrent devopled which was ruining our friendship. I could not help the emotions and love I felt for this man and he was struggling with these issues himself . I tried to talk to him but it only pushed him furthur away. Neither one of us could understand why we felt so close to the other and why we felt such love. It almost ruined our 'special friendship. Reading this book explained it all. It was as if it was written for us. The understanding and healing words in this book saved our friendship and now we can share our lives,our emotions and our support and unconditional love for one another and know that it is normal to have these deep feeling for one another thank you for writing and publishing this book

Fun to Read!

I got this book on a whim one day and couldn't help thumbing through it. Needless to say, I was still sitting in the same place an hour later, giggling and nodding as I turned each page. The best part about this book is that it lends legitimacy to this relationship I have that's a HUGE part of my life. And if you have a gay man/straight woman relationship in your life, you know that it's not always the most respected relationship in the eyes of the general public. This book will give you confidence and your relationship will be the better for it. The authors are dead-on in almost everything they say. And even though my best friend disagrees with me about how great this book is, I think he's just in denial!

It's about time

It's about time.Finally someone has addressed this subject which has bothered many straight women I have spoken to for years. What is it that attracts straight women to gay men? As the book points out, we get to know the femine side of men, which they all have, but straight men won't always show. I think the authors told the story with good taste and assured us that we are enjoying a "normal" relationship with our gay friends. Brova & Brovo to them for addressing this sensitive subject.

Funny & Smart - Just like my Friends!

I highly recommend this book. I saw myself and many gay friends in these pages - very well written, funny, smart, and informative!

I found this book truthful and very reassuring.

I was very grateful to find a book like this. Having found my very best friend in my late thirties to be a gay man, I knew that this relationship was different than any other close relationship I had ever had. I knew there were a whole new set of rules and I was looking for reference materials to review. This book was just what I was looking for. I found reassurance that what I was feeling was normal. When I told him I felt closer to him than my husband and he told me he loved me more than his mother... I was thrilled to know we were not alone. If you are in this type of special relationship be sure to read this book. The stories and help on how to cope with specific issues are priceless. It will give you a reason for weeks of conversation, but then, that's not hard to do.